What did I do wrong?

[KD4Me]

Tifferini - I am sorry that you were released from the houses that you liked. I am sure that it stings, and totally understand that it leaves you wondering why you were not invited back to those houses. You sound like a nice young woman and, from your description of yourself, it sounds as though you would be an asset to a collegiate chapter. I am also sorry that you have received such criticism from some of the people who have replied to your post. I do not think it was warranted.

I suggest that you go to some COR events hosted by the chapter that did invite you to pref. I understand that you didn't feel a connection with them, but you said that they have a strong sisterhood, which appealed to you. That is, perhaps, the MOST important quality in a collegiate chapter!

I recently had an opportunity to attend a "mock" recruitment event at a local collegiate chapter (not where I attended college) of my sorority. We practiced the party twice. Two different girls "rushed" me. They basically said all of the same things, but I really connected with the first girl, not so much with the second one. It made me realize how much impact whoever you spend the most time talking to at a party has on your impression of the whole chapter. After the first party, I was ready to pledge again! After the second party, I felt that if I were an actual PNM, I probably wouldn't rank the chapter very high on my preference card. Nice girl, but just different than me. Hope this makes sense.

What I'm saying is, get to know the entire chapter and then make a decision, because this might be your best chance to join a sorority. Good luck in whatever you decide.