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Originally Posted by als463
Nope. I DON'T feel sorry for you! It is a MUTUAL selection. Apparently the ones you wanted didn't want you back. Get over it! There are some great women that you turned down because, even though you CLAIM you went into recruitment with an OPEN mind-you didn't! If you truly had an open mind you would have realized that there was a chance to meet great women who could be your sisters. They liked you and you turned them down.
It is like dating. You had the opportunity to be with the nice guy who really wanted to treat you right and tell you how awesome you are, but you are sitting at home-waiting by the phone, for the guy who isn't thinking about you and doesn't want you. I don't feel sorry for you! I would rather a woman tell me that she took another NPC's bid and enjoyed her time as an XYZ over telling me she sat around-just waiting-for Phi Mu to call her back and give her a bid. Go enjoy the women who want you. Take this time to give back and do something incredible w/ yourself by doing a philanthropy with the women that want you.
You won't get any sympathy from me.
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First off, I'm not asking for sympathy. I'm asking for advice. There's a difference, in my opinion.
Secondly, I went into recruitment with an open mind on the first day. I started to form opinions at the end of the first day as to what sororities I would like to join.
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Originally Posted by als463
Jen, I have to somewhat disagree. Maybe the dating analogy wasn't very good (I'm not always good at giving perfect analogies), but we can all agree that (for the most part) women who go through recruitment and say they didn't "feel comfortable" or didn't "fit in" it is because they thought they were "Too Good" to be in that organization. I fail to believe that of all the NPC chapters there (which all have something incredible to offer) she couldn't find ANYTHING good about that one particular organization.
Please realize that I have no idea where she goes to school. She may go to a school with no chapter of my organization, so this isn't about getting defensive about my GLO-it is about how disgusted I am that women say they go in with an open mind, yet they decide to drop out because the chapter that actually wanted them didn't "fit" them. I don't believe it. I don't feel sorry for her. She will not be getting any sympathy from me.
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In fact, I did find something about this chapter that appealed to me. They had a very strong sisterhood, stronger than all the other chapters on campus. And it's not that I think I'm better than the girls in this chapter. It was just during recruitment, these girls didn't have very good conversations with me, as opposed to the other houses. They were very serious, whereas, the other chapters were fun and carefree. I don't know if it was due to nerves or anything, but it just came off as being a shy sorority.
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Originally Posted by Kansas City
Could this attitude have shown through and perhaps lead to your recruitment results? At least on my campus, it may have.
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I didn't mean as in I'm gorgeous or anything. I just meant, that on Bid Day, I saw a lot of girls that weren't very pretty wearing the Bid Day shirts of the sororities that I liked. And I'm not saying they don't deserve it. It was just confusing because if that sorority was all consisted of gorgeous-looking women, I would understand why I wasn't picked. But it wasn't because of appearance, so I was wondering what other factors were there.
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