What did I do wrong?

[tifferini]

Well, I'm going to try recruitment again. Thanks for the feedback. It was just weird because the chapter that invited me back was one I didn't feel any connection with. And I felt a connection with the others so I was just wondering if they didn't feel the connection with me.

Also, would it be wise to contact the president of the sorority I like to ask them if they have open recruitment later on?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by tifferini

Also, would it be wise to contact the president of the sorority I like to ask them if they have open recruitment later on?

This really depends on your school. At some, it's ok to inquire about open/informal recruitment opportunities. At others, it's a no-no and you'have to be invited to attend. It just depends.

Keep in mind that after formal recruitment, chapters may have taken quota of new members and as a result, are over total and unable to take anymore new girls..

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by tifferini

Well, I'm going to try recruitment again. Thanks for the feedback. It was just weird because the chapter that invited me back was one I didn't feel any connection with. And I felt a connection with the others so I was just wondering if they didn't feel the connection with me.

Also, would it be wise to contact the president of the sorority I like to ask them if they have open recruitment later on?

Chapters generally want every PNM to want them, regardless of how the active speaking to the PNM or the chapter feels about a particular PNM.

Some chapters have a greater number of skilled conversationalists than others.

We really don't know why you were cut, because we were not there. And even if we were there, membership selection is private and we wouldn't share it anyway.

Trying again with a chapter who cut you after round 1 seems like a long shot to me. Unless almost everyone on your campus had recs and you didn't.

[MaggieXi]

Your greek life office is the appropriate place to ask about the chapters that participate in open recruitment. They will tell you how to proceed.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by tifferini

And I felt a connection with the others so I was just wondering if they didn't feel the connection with me.

Maybe the actives who recruited you did feel a connection with you, but every other active may have felt a connection with other PNMs too.

Every year during Workshop week I give the same speech to our actives and only the numbers change. This year: "There are about 150 of you and Quota will be 70-80. If each of you has a "Rush Crush" or a good friend or a relative going through, then half of you are going to be disappointed."