What did I do wrong?

[PenguinTrax]

Originally Posted by tifferini

Well, my main question is... Why didn't they choose me? I know it's not appearance.

No-one can answer this, not even the chapters on campus. The harsh reality is that you had an opportunity to be member of a sorority and you opted out. You concentrated on what you wanted to have instead of what you did have. You are doing the same now.

Take advantage of your opportunities now, or you will always wonder where those opportunities went, and why. It's a life lesson many people never learn, or learn too late.

[tifferini]

Originally Posted by PenguinTrax

You concentrated on what you wanted to have instead of what you did have. You are doing the same now.

I understand what you're saying. But isn't choosing the sorority supposed to be concentrating on what I want?

Also, I had a 3.86 high school GPA. I was ASB president and captain of the volleyball team. I was the main organizer for fundraisers of the charities our school supports. I volunteered at an animal shelter. I did school choir.

It's just a little confusing, and I admit that I am disappointed.

[MaggieXi]

Originally Posted by tifferini

I understand what you're saying. But isn't choosing the sorority supposed to be concentrating on what I want?

Also, I had a 3.86 high school GPA. I was ASB president and captain of the volleyball team. I was the main organizer for fundraisers of the charities our school supports. I volunteered at an animal shelter. I did school choir.

It's just a little confusing, and I admit that I am disappointed.

Its not just what you want. Its what the sororities want too. Hence, the "mutual" part of mutual selection.

It sounds like you are accomplished for your high school, but are you average compared to other PNMs going through? This is something to consider. There is a really good thread around here somewhere that talks about being in high school as a big fish in a little pond vs being a small or average fish in a big pond in college.

The membership selection process is private - very private. Noone can tell you why you were cut or what/if anything you did wrong. At this point, you've chosen not to be greek. You need to dust yourself off and move on, grow a little, and get adjusted to college. If after a semester or a year you still want to be greek and are willing to take on the risk of going through and getting cut again, then go for it.

[ISUKappa]

Originally Posted by tifferini

I understand what you're saying. But isn't choosing the sorority supposed to be concentrating on what I want?

Also, I had a 3.86 high school GPA. I was ASB president and captain of the volleyball team. I was the main organizer for fundraisers of the charities our school supports. I volunteered at an animal shelter. I did school choir.

It's just a little confusing, and I admit that I am disappointed.

That's the thing, it's not just about what *you* as a PNM want, it's what the chapters are looking for as well.

Chances are there were a hundred other women going through recruitment who have similar or better resumes. Despite good conversations, etc.. cuts have to be made. No one will ever be able to tell you why you were released. Not here and not on your campus. It is disappointing and humbling for many girls, but that's life. And there are no guarantees that the outcome will be any different if you choose to go through recruitment again.

[KSUViolet06]

To be honest:

Recruitment is a mututal selection process. Everyone makes choices.

The chapters chose not to invite you back in the same way that you are allowed to choose not to accept a bid from the one chapter you had left.

Just like you have your reasons for that, they hasve their reasons for not inviting you back.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by tifferini

I understand what you're saying. But isn't choosing the sorority supposed to be concentrating on what I want?

Also, I had a 3.86 high school GPA. I was ASB president and captain of the volleyball team. I was the main organizer for fundraisers of the charities our school supports. I volunteered at an animal shelter. I did school choir.

It's just a little confusing, and I admit that I am disappointed.

So what? There were probably tons of girls going through recruitment that had the same - if not better - resume stats as you.

like everyone else has said NO ONE CAN TELL YOU WHY YOU WERE CUT.

Move on.

p.s. Way to blow off the sorority that was genuinely interested in you so much that they even called you and asked you to reconsider. You said you'd go through Spring recruitment with an open mind, but why didn't you do that during Fall recruitment? I wouldn't be surprised if that house didn't want to offer you a bid later on.