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Originally Posted by AGDee
Nobody should have kids out of pressure from someone else (including a spouse) because it's HARD to be a parent, even when it's what you really want. It takes an inordinate amount of patience, money, time and sacrifice. I love my kids and have loved being a parent most of the time but I'm also counting down the years (5!) until they are both in college and I will have my life all to myself again. There are a lot of people who think I'm strange because I'm looking forward to having an "empty nest", but after almost 16 years of this incredible responsibility, I'm ready to do my own thing without thinking about anybody else's needs first. I think it will be a liberating thing, not a scary thing, but then, I have an identity outside of "daughter's mom" or "son's mom".
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The bold is why I don't want kids. I like my life. If I want to go to the beach on my day off, I don't want to have to worry about getting back in time to pick my kids up from school. I don't want the responsibility of teaching my kids how to do things correctly or know what to say when something happens. You aren't just having a cute little baby, you are having something that will grow and you have to teach it to be a responsible adult.
On the topic of comments on the "no-kid" stance:
"Oh whatever, you will be a great mom."
"You say that now. Just wait until you get older."
"But children are life's greatest accomplishment!"
I like dogs. I can do dogs. The idea of children is too much responsibility and... well many other things. Don't even get me started on pregnancy. Ick.
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