Not Keen on Having Kids support thread

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

What about those of us who want children eventually, but hate it when others bring their children into situations where they were not invited or welcome? I hate it, but I know it makes me look bad. I like kids, I just prefer them relatively well-behaved.

Well I would agree with that. I am having a Lia Sophia party at my house tomorrow evening. My invitation stated "No children please" because my house is not baby/toddler/small child proof. I have sharp corners and crystal. Not to mention these kinds of parties are really for adults. Actually I've had to put that on every party invitation in the past two years. If I dont, someone inevitably brings their kids whether it's something like Pampered Chef or casino/Las Vegas themed party.

Back when I was selling The Body Shop at Home I had an open house party and two people brought their kids. They were bored obviously, so they got into trouble. The toddler bumped his head on a sharp corner and tried to get into my cabinet under the sink. Then I got yelled at for having sharp corners and not having a safety tie on the cabinet doors---I was like ummm my kids are 10, 11, and 15 sharp corners close to the ground and getting into cabinets arent a problem for them nor do I take them to parties with me where they could get in trouble. She wasnt happy but I didnt really care. Just because you have kids doenst mean everyone else needs to bend over backwards to accomodate you.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

Well I would agree with that. I am having a Lia Sophia party at my house tomorrow evening. My invitation stated "No children please" because my house is not baby/toddler/small child proof. I have sharp corners and crystal. Not to mention these kinds of parties are really for adults. Actually I've had to put that on every party invitation in the past two years. If I dont, someone inevitably brings their kids whether it's something like Pampered Chef or casino/Las Vegas themed party.

Back when I was selling The Body Shop at Home I had an open house party and two people brought their kids. They were bored obviously, so they got into trouble. The toddler bumped his head on a sharp corner and tried to get into my cabinet under the sink. Then I got yelled at for having sharp corners and not having a safety tie on the cabinet doors---I was like ummm my kids are 10, 11, and 15 sharp corners close to the ground and getting into cabinets arent a problem for them nor do I take them to parties with me where they could get in trouble. She wasnt happy but I didnt really care. Just because you have kids doenst mean everyone else needs to bend over backwards to accomodate you.

I hear ya....I tell people the same. I yelled at my SIL last christmas because she allowed my nephew to climb up the stairs while she was busy stuffing her face and he fell DOWN those stairs and she tried to tell me I needed to block my stairs...no you need to WATCH YOUR KID.

Funny thing was he must have learned his lesson. I had he and his big brother this weekend and everytime he looked at those stairs he did no try to climb them.

[deepimpact2]

Yay! I love how the thread is moving along.

DS, to answer your question, those things that you listed have never factored into my decision not to have kids. Mine was strictly about how having kids would affect MY life. I want o travel without having to worry about kids. I want to be able to work on building my law practice without worrying about how pregnancy and child-rearing will affect that. I want to be able to continue feeding my purse and shoe fetish without feeling like I need to be spending on my kid.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

Yay! I love how the thread is moving along.

DS, to answer your question, those things that you listed have never factored into my decision not to have kids. Mine was strictly about how having kids would affect MY life. I want o travel without having to worry about kids. I want to be able to work on building my law practice without worrying about how pregnancy and child-rearing will affect that. I want to be able to continue feeding my purse and shoe fetish without feeling like I need to be spending on my kid.

selfish.....LOL

[AOII Angel]

I don't really care about the happenings in the world as a reason not to have kids, either. I'm not really a worrier...there have ALWAYS been reasons not to have children! I like the fact that I can travel EVERY weekend. I can buy whatever I want and not have to worry that my kid doesn't have what he/she needs. I don't have to worry that I don't have enough patience (I don't have patience...I just don't.) I can enjoy my husband and my marriage...I see so many marriages after children turn into disasters. I think many people give up on that relationship and just focus on the kids...it's so sad! I love my career. I love my life. I don't want to have to change the life I have for a child, and I certainly don't want to have a child and put it second to my lifestyle. Therefore...I don't have children!

[deepimpact2]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

selfish.....LOL

LMAO This is the response I tend to hear when I say that.

I once snapped and told someone that they were selfish for only trying to have their own biological kids and not adopt. Of course they told me that was absurd, and I told them it was no more absurd than telling someone they were selfish for not wanting kids.


On a side note, there's a book out called "We Need to Talk About Kevin." The main character is a mother whose son went on a killing spree at school, and the book consists of letters she wrote to her husband explaining how she really didn't want kids and how one of her worst fears about having kids came true.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

On a side note, there's a book out called "We Need to Talk About Kevin." The main character is a mother whose son went on a killing spree at school, and the book consists of letters she wrote to her husband explaining how she really didn't want kids and how one of her worst fears about having kids came true.

I really thought that book was well done. I've often thought it could be made into a really great creepy film, and there's some possibility that it might get made.

[deepimpact2]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I really thought that book was well done. I've often thought it could be made into a really great creepy film, and there's some possibility that it might get made.

I like it so far. That would be cool if they make it into a movie.