MTV's 16 and Pregnant

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think everyone has at least one friend who had an "oops baby" with a boyfriend that she's had for like 6 months.

Not me. Not trying to sound snotty, but it's the truth. All of my friends with kids got pregnant after being married for a while.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

For some reason, I am surrounded by "oops babies" right now. I can understand an "oops baby" at 16 more than I can at 26, because you're young and stupid about everything, but that's just me.

Birth control (with the exception of abstinence or hysterectomy) isn't 100% effective, regardless of how old or smart the couple is.

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

Not me. Not trying to sound snotty, but it's the truth. All of my friends with kids got pregnant after being married for a while.

The "oops" baby phenomenon isn't limited to the unmarried. (I'm sure you know this. I'm just pointing out that married folks have to deal with this sometimes, too.)

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Birth control (with the exception of abstinence or hysterectomy) isn't 100% effective, regardless of how old or smart the couple is.

Really?! I didn't know this!!! OMG thanks for enlightening me!

Honestly? I look back to where I was at 16, and although I thought I knew everything, there was a lot--especially in terms of sex and birth control--that I didn't figure out until I was a little older. For what it's worth, I had parents who made sure I had access to what I needed/wanted in that regard, so it's not like I was a Bristol Palin or anything.

The whole point was that when you're a teenager, you may take risks with your body and life that you normally wouldn't after a few years out in the real world. You may not have access to birth control, or you might not be educated on how to use it. By the time you're in your mid-20s, however, the game can be a little different.

[SydneyK]

^^^ And my whole point was that even once you're an adult who doesn't takes risks, and even if you have access to BC and you're educated on how to use it, you can still get pregnant.

I didn't mean to suggest that you don't know these things. I was just responding to your statement that you understood teenagers' oops babies more than adults' oops babies.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

^^^ And my whole point was that even once you're an adult who doesn't takes risks, and even if you have access to BC and you're educated on how to use it, you can still get pregnant.

I didn't mean to suggest that you don't know these things. I was just responding to your statement that you understood teenagers' oops babies more than adults' oops babies.

My point wasn't that no form of BC is 100% effective; everyone knows that. Those aren't the accidental pregnancies that I'm really concerned about for the purposes of this discussion.

The point I was getting at is that a teenage girl is probably less responsible than someone 10 years older (and would probably skip a pill or go without a condom once in a while); she would probably listen to her stupid boyfriend about the circumstances under which you WOULDN'T get pregnant; and she would probably feel like she was invincible and think it wouldn't happen to her. Therefore, an accidental pregnancy based on carelessness for a 16 year old is more understandable (it doesn't mean I condone it) than for a 26 year old, who should know better.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

The point I was getting at is that a teenage girl is probably less responsible than someone 10 years older (and would probably skip a pill or go without a condom once in a while); she would probably listen to her stupid boyfriend about the circumstances under which you WOULDN'T get pregnant; and she would probably feel like she was invincible and think it wouldn't happen to her. Therefore, an accidental pregnancy based on carelessness for a 16 year old is more understandable (it doesn't mean I condone it) than for a 26 year old, who should know better.

Yes.

For example:

At 16, if your bf tells you "you can skip a pill, and we can sleep together, and still not get pregnant" or something else equally dumb, you just might be uneducated enough to believe him. I can understand that (not that I condone it).

However, if you're 26 and your bf tells you the same thing, you should be educated enough to tell him that that's false and that you need to use a back up. If you believe him, and you get pregnant, I have a hard time just chalking that up to miseducation (because by then you should know better).

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

...she would probably listen to her stupid boyfriend about the circumstances under which you WOULDN'T get pregnant...

OMG that is sooo true! I can't believe how many stories I've heard said when I was in HS and then years later by the newer HS girls I know. Things like:

*You can't get pregnant if you have sex in a pool
*You can't get pregnant if you have sex in a hot tub
*You can't have sex if the girl is on top (supposedly the sperm just falls down and doesn't "go up" the vagina to fertilize an egg)
*After you have unprotected sex, you have to do jumping jacks or jump rope (anything with jumping) and the sperm will 'fall out' and you won't get pregnant.
*If you use 2 condoms there is more than a 100% effectiveness (really? lol)
*If you take 2 bc pills the day after you have unprotected sex then you won't get pregnant (supposedly it stops the egg from being fertilized or something)

plus the whole:
*You can't get pregnant if you have anal sex
*You can't get pregnant if you have oral sex
^^^ so those 2 are probably true, but those lead to having sex...and then unprotected sex.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by epchick

*You can't get pregnant if you have anal sex
.

I actually found out a couple of months ago that you actually could get pregnant from anal sex. It's uncommon but it happens.

[bostongreek]

Originally Posted by epchick

*If you take 2 bc pills the day after you have unprotected sex then you won't get pregnant (supposedly it stops the egg from being fertilized or something)

There actually is some truth to that one. The morning after pill is basically a superdose of birth control.