Something like a prodigal daughter

[33girl]

HBITY?

(the "my godparents are WASPs" part, obvi not the intellectual part)

[BeOfService1rst]

KSUViolet06 on Humility: I am really not sure how to convey what kind of person I am through these posts. I thought me laying my plight down in front of you would demonstrate at least that I need advice (which is an admission of ignorance/naivite). It seems that I would have to talk to you in person for you to begin to understand me in the way that people who know me already do.

MysticCat: on the use of the term "soror", I did note that only a certain type of girl used the term. Thank you for providing clarification on this. As far as my location: I don't think that I realized that a school can be known so easily by the sororities on its campus. I cannot name any schools based on that criterion. On my demonstration of naivite: I think this entire thread is about me naivite and being "green" as far as this whole process goes. I am naive and in need of advice. Can anyone tell me how I might deal with my situation if I wanted to press forward?

Myopicsunflower on elitism: I am not the one to define elitism. However, I have learned that when one is born into a certain position, one has to learn to have a sense of duty towards god, family and country. I think that the burden of being "elite" in any sense is the realization that one just can't take pride in one's own circumstance. One has the duty to aid, ameliorate and guard the society that made one's life possible. In that sense the people sacrificing their lives overseas so that people back home can bicker on this subject are the ones who are the most elite.

Can anyone tell me how I might deal with my situation if I wanted to press forward? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again.

[Little32]

Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst

Can anyone tell me how I might deal with my situation if I wanted to press forward? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again.

Here's how to deal with it. Stop doing too much. In this thread. In your life. Several folks have already given you all the advice that you need.

Pursue membership or don't pursue membership, whatever.

Just stop doing too much.

[Kansas City]

Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst

Can anyone tell me how I might deal with my situation if I wanted to press forward? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again.

Stop trying to explain yourself and take a break from posting on the message board for a while. Be a silent observer and learn about the entire recruitment process and Greek life through other threads on GC. Hope that you will not be recognized/identified by your thread if you decide to go through recruitment at your school in the fall. Be open minded if you choose to rush and be prepared if things do not go as you anticipate. Take care of yourself, watch your grades, participate in activities, work on conversation, and consider other organizations to fulfill your desires if sorority recruitment does not work out for you. Good luck.

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst

I am not the one to define elitism. However, I have learned that when one is born into a certain position, one has to learn to have a sense of duty towards god, family and country. I think that the burden of being "elite" in any sense is the realization that one just can't take pride in one's own circumstance.

My undergraduate university had a ton of kids from priviledged backgrounds. It was always a source of happiness to me to see how kids from all different backgrounds blended in well together, and got along so well. Among all of these priviledged students, one girl in particular stood out. She came from an enormously wealthy family, even by that school's standards. Everyone knew who she was from the get-go. Her family (who had obviously done a great job raising her) had a chat with her before she set off for school. They had told her that people would be all too ready to find her snobby, and that she would have to make an effort to extend herself to others. She became legendary in my enormous dormitory for going around and knocking on literally every door to introduce herself to her fellow students. Of course, she did not become close friends with absolutely everyone, but she was widely admired for her friendliness, humility, and down-to-earth qualities. I don't remember her ever once making a big deal about her background, family expectations for her, etc. She joined the organizations where she felt comfortable, and did pretty much what she wanted to do during her campus tenure (I think she felt secure enough about herself to not worry about these things overly.) To this day I admire her and have warm thoughts of her.

If you are going to go through rush, go through with the attitude that you are going to meet some new people. Take them as you find them. If you go through rush with the attitude that you want to help your rusher to feel comfortable with you, to enjoy herself, and to have a pleasant conversation with you, then I think that you would be going through with the right perspective. You may or may not form a connection, but you can only decide that after you've gone through the process.

[COBaby]

Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst

KSUViolet06 on Humility: I am really not sure how to convey what kind of person I am through these posts. I thought me laying my plight down in front of you would demonstrate at least that I need advice (which is an admission of ignorance/naivite). It seems that I would have to talk to you in person for you to begin to understand me in the way that people who know me already do.

MysticCat: on the use of the term "soror", I did note that only a certain type of girl used the term. Thank you for providing clarification on this. As far as my location: I don't think that I realized that a school can be known so easily by the sororities on its campus. I cannot name any schools based on that criterion. On my demonstration of naivite: I think this entire thread is about me naivite and being "green" as far as this whole process goes. I am naive and in need of advice. Can anyone tell me how I might deal with my situation if I wanted to press forward?

Myopicsunflower on elitism: I am not the one to define elitism. However, I have learned that when one is born into a certain position, one has to learn to have a sense of duty towards god, family and country. I think that the burden of being "elite" in any sense is the realization that one just can't take pride in one's own circumstance. One has the duty to aid, ameliorate and guard the society that made one's life possible. In that sense the people sacrificing their lives overseas so that people back home can bicker on this subject are the ones who are the most elite.

Can anyone tell me how I might deal with my situation if I wanted to press forward? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again.

What people are reading and responding to in your posts is not your "naivete;" it's your general refusal to use contractions. You sound like you're writing a formal essay, rather than asking the advice of a group of people who really would like to help.

Serious advice? Get in there and rush. (Or COB, if you don't want to or can't go through with the recruitment process.) You can always back out if you realize that it's not what you wanted. If it works, it will work, and if not, you'll find something else.

(sorry for the low postcount, y'all; I promise I lurk like no one's business.)
Also, many lols at the pledgepark referral.

ETA: Actually, given the thread title, I was expecting nothing but a trainwreck.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by 33girl

HBITY?

(the "my godparents are WASPs" part, obvi not the intellectual part)

LOL

I was wondering who you were talking about.