FR, COB... bidless. What's wrong with me?

[Blue Skies]

Start befriending the girls who sit close to you in your classes (this works best in smaller classes or in classes that are in your major.) Smile, and ask a particular girl about what will be on the next quiz or when the next paper is due. Follow up with an observation about something currrent on campus and a question, i.e. "Wow, I had a hard time focusing on this homework assignment with all the excitement about the NCAA championships. My dorm is in an uproar. Is yours?" etc.

Grab a group of friends and start going to every party that you hear about. Practice walking up to people, smiling, and saying, "Hi, I'm [name]." Start with conventional questions (dorm/hometown/major, etc.) then go to an observation and question. Practice, practice, practice until you can make friendly conversation with a brick wall (LOL!) Ask people about themselves, and try to find a way to make them laugh. They will love you for it!

Also, set aside study time each day and join a club or two. Then give recruitment another go. Good luck to you!

[sjsoffer]

Originally Posted by Blue Skies

Start befriending the girls who sit close to you in your classes (this works best in smaller classes or in classes that are in your major.) Smile, and ask a particular girl about what will be on the next quiz or when the next paper is due. Follow up with an observation about something currrent on campus and a question, i.e. "Wow, I had a hard time focusing on this homework assignment with all the excitement about the NCAA championships. My dorm is in an uproar. Is yours?" etc.

Grab a group of friends and start going to every party that you hear about. Practice walking up to people, smiling, and saying, "Hi, I'm [name]." Start with conventional questions (dorm/hometown/major, etc.) then go to an observation and question. Practice, practice, practice until you can make friendly conversation with a brick wall (LOL!) Ask people about themselves, and try to find a way to make them laugh. They will love you for it!

Also, set aside study time each day and join a club or two. Then give recruitment another go. Good luck to you!

I think this is excellent advice in general, not just for recruitment!

[WVU alpha phi]

I think Blue Skies gives good advice on how to possibly make more friends. But you also don't want to come off as overfriendly and scare people off. I think I'd be a little weirded out if a random person walked up to me and introduced themselves as I was walking to class or something. Hopefully you were talking about parties, and that'd be a different situation.

[KSUViolet06]

I would also suggest REALLY thinking over whether you want to go through recruitment again.

It is tough when girls don't get bids, and just really consider if you could deal with it if you went through formal again and didn't receive a bid.

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi

I think Blue Skies gives good advice on how to possibly make more friends. But you also don't want to come off as overfriendly and scare people off. I think I'd be a little weirded out if a random person walked up to me and introduced themselves as I was walking to class or something. Hopefully you were talking about parties, and that'd be a different situation.

Yes, I was talking about parties.

I was very shy in high school, and I deliberately chose a very social college to help bring me out of my shell. So I speak from personal experience.

Regarding recruitment, I think that dealing with rejection and disappointment is a part of life, and that recruitment is a relatively safe and protected way to learn about that. But knowing your own limits is also a valuable life skill. If a girl knows that she will be emotionally crushed by undergoing possible further rejection, then she would be wise to not subject herself to it.