FR, COB... bidless. What's wrong with me?

[WVU alpha phi]

I think Blue Skies gives good advice on how to possibly make more friends. But you also don't want to come off as overfriendly and scare people off. I think I'd be a little weirded out if a random person walked up to me and introduced themselves as I was walking to class or something. Hopefully you were talking about parties, and that'd be a different situation.

[KSUViolet06]

I would also suggest REALLY thinking over whether you want to go through recruitment again.

It is tough when girls don't get bids, and just really consider if you could deal with it if you went through formal again and didn't receive a bid.

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi

I think Blue Skies gives good advice on how to possibly make more friends. But you also don't want to come off as overfriendly and scare people off. I think I'd be a little weirded out if a random person walked up to me and introduced themselves as I was walking to class or something. Hopefully you were talking about parties, and that'd be a different situation.

Yes, I was talking about parties.

I was very shy in high school, and I deliberately chose a very social college to help bring me out of my shell. So I speak from personal experience.

Regarding recruitment, I think that dealing with rejection and disappointment is a part of life, and that recruitment is a relatively safe and protected way to learn about that. But knowing your own limits is also a valuable life skill. If a girl knows that she will be emotionally crushed by undergoing possible further rejection, then she would be wise to not subject herself to it.