FR, COB... bidless. What's wrong with me?
 

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The best trait for PNMs to have, in my opinion, is great conversation skills. When all is said and done, the sorority members will remember most the girls they had a FANTASTIC conversation with. Not just a Q&A. You also need to be careful about which questions you ask. If you ask questions that make the members uncomfortable, they may end up with an overall negative impression of you (subconsciously or not). If you decide to go through recruitment again, I would advise you to brush up on your conversation skills; learn to listen to people when they talk, and build a conversation on what they're saying. Sorority members spend a lot of time practicing this skill for recruitment, too, and I've long said that the strongest recruiters are the women who can have a conversation with ANYONE.

Aside from that, make sure your gpa is up to par with the sorority average.

Methinks that recruitment really IS more competitive than you thought it was and this has hurt your chances.

Find something else that fulfills you and move on.

Is it possible to be too talkative? Personally I tend to talk forever sometimes and that's something that crossed my mind when I was thinking about Formal Recruitment:rolleyes:

Absolutely. One PNM that came through got nicknamed Chatty Cathy because she would not let any of us get a word in.

LOL!! I'm assuming she didn't get a bid? I know that's going to be my main problem -- being like Chatty Cathy. Need to brush up on shutting up for 5 minutes and letting my rusher get some Q's in:rolleyes:

I know she didn't get a bid, but I doubt it was because she talked too much.

Start befriending the girls who sit close to you in your classes (this works best in smaller classes or in classes that are in your major.) Smile, and ask a particular girl about what will be on the next quiz or when the next paper is due. Follow up with an observation about something currrent on campus and a question, i.e. "Wow, I had a hard time focusing on this homework assignment with all the excitement about the NCAA championships. My dorm is in an uproar. Is yours?" etc.

Grab a group of friends and start going to every party that you hear about. Practice walking up to people, smiling, and saying, "Hi, I'm [name]." Start with conventional questions (dorm/hometown/major, etc.) then go to an observation and question. Practice, practice, practice until you can make friendly conversation with a brick wall (LOL!) Ask people about themselves, and try to find a way to make them laugh. They will love you for it!

Also, set aside study time each day and join a club or two. Then give recruitment another go. Good luck to you!

I think this is excellent advice in general, not just for recruitment! :)

I think Blue Skies gives good advice on how to possibly make more friends. But you also don't want to come off as overfriendly and scare people off. I think I'd be a little weirded out if a random person walked up to me and introduced themselves as I was walking to class or something. Hopefully you were talking about parties, and that'd be a different situation.

Yes, I was talking about parties. :)

I was very shy in high school, and I deliberately chose a very social college to help bring me out of my shell. So I speak from personal experience.

Regarding recruitment, I think that dealing with rejection and disappointment is a part of life, and that recruitment is a relatively safe and protected way to learn about that. But knowing your own limits is also a valuable life skill. If a girl knows that she will be emotionally crushed by undergoing possible further rejection, then she would be wise to not subject herself to it.