Physical appearances you refuse to date.

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by libramunoz

Delta Devil,
You are assuming a lot to be a child of 19. Yes, you are legally an adult in the eyes of the law, however, by your comments, your thinking tends to be that of a child.

When you become grown, you have to learn how to dress for both your age and where you are working. I mean, I don't think that you would appreciate seeing one of your female professors dressing in a mini skirt and a tube top with high heeled shoes trying to teach you about philosophy. Again, it's a matter of being able to dress where you are working and your age.

At 19, yes, you may see some people dressing this way or that, but a) don't believe the hype and b) don't assume that this is what EVERYONE in that area does. Because ultimately, it will invaribly show your lack of common sense and your lack of maturity.

Yes it is letting kids dress how they want to dress, however, it goes back to HOME TRAINING! Just because your friends are dressing in XZY fashion doesn't mean that you HAVE TO as well.

When you step out of your home, the way that you dress does tend to reflect what is going on in YOUR home. If your parents don't care what you dress in or what you look like when leaving the house, then hey, believe me, folks do assume that your parents haven't given you ANY home training.

When I was growing up, we didn't have the most money in the neighborhood, but yet when I left that door, I was clean, had my clothes on right, and looked like I had some sense. When I moved to the country, we still didn't have the most money in the world, but yet, when I left the house, I was clean, my clothes were hole free, and I looked like I had sense.

The whole point is that in dressing, it reflects who you are and what you are WILLING to be about. Dressing to sag seems to reflect that you aren't about jack diddly squat and at 19, you SHOULD know better, but then that goes back to what's your HOME TRAINING?

Well I dress like a "thug" but that doesnt mean i have bad home training. For a person who has never been in trouble for anything school and street wise, never been a drug dealer or a gang member shows that I have very good home training if you ask me. I dress in what i personally like. Im not a big fan of ties and suits therefore I dress in gym shoes pants that are a little bit baggy and t shirts. I have no problem with a parent putting some type of input on what a child wears, but they should also allow that child to pick out what they want to wear unless the child is mentally incapable of doing things on his or her own.

As for the part that i put in bold, I dont care what a person has on long as what they say is true or worth listening to. Clothing doesnt make up a persons knowledge on different subjects.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Well I dress like a "thug" but that doesnt mean i have bad home training. For a person who has never been in trouble for anything school and street wise, never been a drug dealer or a gang member shows that I have very good home training if you ask me. I dress in what i personally like. Im not a big fan of ties and suits therefore I dress in gym shoes pants that are a little bit baggy and t shirts. I have no problem with a parent putting some type of input on what a child wears, but they should also allow that child to pick out what they want to wear unless the child is mentally incapable of doing things on his or her own.

As for the part that i put in bold, I dont care what a person has on long as what they say is true or worth listening to. Clothing doesnt make up a persons knowledge on different subjects.

It doesn't matter if you don't really act like a thug. Your dressing like one will make society think you do.

Like everyone said, you're thinking like a 19 year old. I'm sure it'll change once you're older.

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

It doesn't matter if you don't really act like a thug. Your dressing like one will make society think you do.

Like everyone said, you're thinking like a 19 year old. I'm sure it'll change once you're older.

Maybe, but as of right now I dont see that happening

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Maybe, but as of right now I dont see that happening

Because you're 19. LOL.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Maybe, but as of right now I dont see that happening

If that's the case, good luck having people take you seriously in the real world.

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

If that's the case, good luck having people take you seriously in the real world.

Off of clothing though? Why not just take a person seriously based on what they have to say or what they do instead of the clothing. Im tired of this "the clothing makes the man" mentality, but o well in time we will see if what you say turns out to be true.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Off of clothing though? Why not just take a person seriously based on what they have to say or what they do instead of the clothing. Im tired of this "the clothing makes the man" mentality, but o well in time we will see if what you say turns out to be true.

Look up "cultural capital."

Then look up the relationships between cultural capital, human capital, and social capital.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by deltadevil

Off of clothing though? Why not just take a person seriously based on what they have to say or what they do instead of the clothing. Im tired of this "the clothing makes the man" mentality, but o well in time we will see if what you say turns out to be true.

Because LIFE DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT...people's first reaction to you is your appearance...and if you look like a thug ESPECIALLY BEING A YOUNG BLACK MAN in this world, no one will give a damn about what degrees you have, who your family is, or what you know...all you look like is the rest of the other men that are either locvked up, in jail or never set foot on a college campus.

People your age always hollering about "reppin' where they is from" well guess what?

Part of that is based upon first impressions!

You are in college now to get a career in whatever it is you want to get a career in, right? Well the first step is knowing that you can't always do what you want or dress how YOU WANT. Or better yet, look like the average homey on the street. Between now and the time you graduate, you will really learn that you have to step up your game especially if you want to live 'real life'. There is nothing wrong with a suit, some nice shoes and some clean underwear man!

You just wait...but you know...I am not going to bust on you too much any more because you are still 19 and you still want to have your fun, but you need to start prepping yourself now while you can because sooner or later, that thug look ain't gonna be cool on you when you hit 30 or 40 and you are still sitting there with a degree and no job and wondering why girls named LaQuisha flipping burgers with you at Mickee Dee's are the only types attracted to you...

[deltadevil]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Because LIFE DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT...people's first reaction to you is your appearance...and if you look like a thug ESPECIALLY BEING A YOUNG BLACK MAN in this world, no one will give a damn about what degrees you have, who your family is, or what you know...all you look like is the rest of the other men that are either locvked up, in jail or never set foot on a college campus.

People your age always hollering about "reppin' where they is from" well guess what?

Part of that is based upon first impressions!

You are in college now to get a career in whatever it is you want to get a career in, right? Well the first step is knowing that you can't always do what you want or dress how YOU WANT. Or better yet, look like the average homey on the street. Between now and the time you graduate, you will really learn that you have to step up your game especially if you want to live 'real life'. There is nothing wrong with a suit, some nice shoes and some clean underwear man!

You just wait...but you know...I am not going to bust on you too much any more because you are still 19 and you still want to have your fun, but you need to start prepping yourself now while you can because sooner or later, that thug look ain't gonna be cool on you when you hit 30 or 40 and you are still sitting there with a degree and no job and wondering why girls named LaQuisha flipping burgers with you at Mickee Dee's are the only types attracted to you...

I'm mad that I laughed at that part. I see what you are saying though.