Not Sure What to Make of this "Recruitment" Strategy...

[VandalSquirrel]

If you can handle the thought that you may not get a bid, keep going. Maybe more women need to meet you so they feel comfortable inviting you to join their membership. If their philanthropy event is something you'd go to anyway, go.

I would NOT bring up membership at the philanthropy event (unless asked a direct question such as "Are you interested in joining XYZ?").

One thing that may be happening is that the woman you emailed is no longer the "coordinator" as many groups bring in new officers with the new calendar year. My best advice is to be patient (if you want to join any sorority) and be kind and polite. That sort of classy and mature behavior will always pay off, and you won't be featured in a GC post about a weird or strange PNM. Even if this group isn't interested in having you as a member, your actions in this situation will likely play out if you go through formal or informal recruitment in the future.

[PuppyLove87]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

If you can handle the thought that you may not get a bid, keep going. Maybe more women need to meet you so they feel comfortable inviting you to join their membership. If their philanthropy event is something you'd go to anyway, go.

I would NOT bring up membership at the philanthropy event (unless asked a direct question such as "Are you interested in joining XYZ?").

One thing that may be happening is that the woman you emailed is no longer the "coordinator" as many groups bring in new officers with the new calendar year. My best advice is to be patient (if you want to join any sorority) and be kind and polite. That sort of classy and mature behavior will always pay off, and you won't be featured in a GC post about a weird or strange PNM. Even if this group isn't interested in having you as a member, your actions in this situation will likely play out if you go through formal or informal recruitment in the future.

Ooh, ok, that makes sense. Yea I don't mind going to these events, they're fun and the girls are nice. I just wasn't sure what was going on, I'm unfamiliar with some of these processes. Thank you .

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by PuppyLove87

Ooh, ok, that makes sense. Yea I don't mind going to these events, they're fun and the girls are nice. I just wasn't sure what was going on, I'm unfamiliar with some of these processes. Thank you .

Here's a true story: I have friends in other sororities, and sometimes when we know a woman isn't a good fit for our sisterhood, but still a great person, we pass their names on to our panhellenic sisters. Or if for some reason they decided to go the formal recruitment route after freshman year, we give our friends a heads up, or as I am an alumna, help them secure recs. That also goes for other events and activities we're involved in, which can, but does not guarantee, an extension of membership in the future. Presenting yourself positively can only help you.

What do you have to lose or gain by going to these events? Are you truly interested in membership? Can you handle rejection? These are all questions you need to ask yourself and keep in mind if you pursue membership.