Not Sure What to Make of this "Recruitment" Strategy...

PuppyLove87 · #1 02-19-2009, 02:09 AM

Well I think it was just odd that I was the only girl who wasn't a member at the dinner and ice cream social. Usually the other sororities invite a good handful of girls during recruitment.

KSUViolet06 · #2 02-19-2009, 02:14 AM

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Originally Posted by PuppyLove87

Well I think it was just odd that I was the only girl who wasn't a member at the dinner and ice cream social. Usually the other sororities invite a good handful of girls during recruitment.

Well, who knows why there weren't more girls there?

There could be any number of reasons for that.

Also, the fudraising invite may have been like a "mass" invite, not something meant just for you.

It's possible for a sorority to invite you to a fundraiser without being interested in you as a member, if that's what you're wondering.

It's also possble that they are not extending bids at this time and just wanted to meet girls at the social. It's also possible that they are extending bids and you just weren't extended one.

PuppyLove87 · #3 02-19-2009, 02:19 AM

Yea, I know the fundraiser was meant for a bunch of people, I just needed clarfication on those other 2 past events. I just wasn't sure what it meant, if it meant anything.

KSUViolet06 · #4 02-19-2009, 02:22 AM

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Originally Posted by PuppyLove87

Yea, I know the fundraiser was meant for a bunch of people, I just needed clarfication on those other 2 past events. I just wasn't sure what it meant, if it meant anything.

It could mean:

*They just wanted to meet girls and not extend bids to anyone.

*They are extending bids at this time, and they just weren't interested in giving you one.

*They're planning on inviting you to future recruitment events.

I would keep attending events if invited and just see what happens.

33girl · #5 02-19-2009, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

It could mean:

*They just wanted to meet girls and not extend bids to anyone.

My chapter did this all the time. It's a good recruitment strategy to keep meeting women and keep them interested in your sorority, even if you are not handing out bids right then and there.

The girl who had class w/ you is probably how you got invited, but she should have invited you PERSONALLY rather than you getting an impersonal invite...no wonder you're confused.

Do not email asking when/if bids are going to be given out or what your "status" is. If they want to extend a bid to you, they will. That might be a week from now, it might be a month from now, it might be a year from now. Everything isn't "instant" all the time.

Kansas City · #6 02-19-2009, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by PuppyLove87

Yea, I know the fundraiser was meant for a bunch of people, I just needed clarfication on those other 2 past events. I just wasn't sure what it meant, if it meant anything.

Frankly, I'm not sure that it necessarily meant anything.

I'm not going to attempt to guess the motives for a chapter I know nothing about at a school I do not know. If it is really bothering you, I'd ask one of your close friends in the sorority why you seem to be the only non-member showing up to these events.

APhiAnna · #7 02-19-2009, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

Frankly, I'm not sure that it necessarily meant anything.

I'm not going to attempt to guess the motives for a chapter I know nothing about at a school I do not know. If it is really bothering you, I'd ask one of your close friends in the sorority why you seem to be the only non-member showing up to these events.

I would NOT do this...asking somebody from a chapter why "I was the only non-member here" could be seriously awkward...maybe they invited 50 girls and she was the only one who showed up (obviously a little exaggerated)...in that type of scenario it would be a seriously rude question and even her closer friends in the chapter might reconsider giving her a bid.

BUT my biggest question is this: are you sure these were informal recruitment events? They very well may be. But, for example, women from my chapter will invite close friends to meals all the time simply because they want to hang out with their friends. Other sororities have things like ice-cream sundae events for the entire school. You could have been the only non-member at dinner simply because it was a random night for a friend to bring somebody to dinner. You could have been the only non-member at the ice cream social if your school's Greek community has a small impact and the event wasn't advertised well.

Did the sorority make quota? Are they at total? Are you even sure that these were meant to be events where they bid women? I am not attacking you or anything, just wondering.

Kansas City · #8 02-19-2009, 05:33 PM

[quote=APhiAnna;1781775]I would NOT do this...asking somebody from a chapter why "I was the only non-member here" could be seriously awkward...maybe they invited 50 girls and she was the only one who showed up (obviously a little exaggerated)...in that type of scenario it would be a seriously rude question and even her closer friends in the chapter might reconsider giving her a bid.[quote]

I guess that I'm not reading anything in the OP, other than "recruitment ended a few weeks ago" that would indicate that these recent events have anything to do with recruitment (past, present or future). I stand behind my suggestion that if you "don't know what to make of this," perhaps you should ask someone in the know. All GC can do is guess about the circumstances of your attendance at these events which probably in turn leads you to question the events and the chapter's motives even more. You apparently have made friends in the chapter and probably have some classes with these girls so why not politley ask them in private "what's up?" I would view this conversation as you expressing an interest in their organization, if your hope is to eventually be extended a bid. If not, I'd just take these events for what they are ... a good way to meet friends on campus.