how do sororities decide?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by swtlilsoni

hmm well I have a question for you
what about people who dont accept bids? Is that not okay?
Basically, are you saying that its wrong to not want to join a certain sorority or have preferences among chapters?
I mean, after attending each party we have to rank the chapters in order of preference .. is that wrong?
If a girl is in a certain chapter that fits her, are you saying that she would have been just as fine in any of the other ones?
I still feel like there are certain chapters you fit in and certain chapters that arent right for you ..

I'm really not trying to argue or anything I'm just trying to understand if by what your saying, you mean any sorority is good for any girl and one can fit in any of them? or are you saying since they think I was a fit they must have been correct?

I think what your trying to get at is that the sorority thought I would be right for them so they were probably right..
Well sometimes a girl finds a connection but the sorority eliminates her right? So why is it not okay if a sorority finds a connection but a girl doesnt?

Sorry I've arrived a little late to this party, but...

You're going to find from being on this site that there are numerous recruitment stories posted all the time. I joined Greekchat over the summer and since then, I can't tell you how many stories I've read where a girl doesn't really like a chapter, it turns out it's her only option going into pref, and then she absolutely loves it.

You seem very concerned with the number of sisters you had to talk to in order to get a bid. Therefore, I'm guessing you didn't talk to a lot of sisters from each sorority (which can very well happen with much larger chapters). Because of this, you only talked to a handful of sisters from the "less desirable" chapter, and chances are you might have had conversations with more of them at pref, and you might have found from talking to them that this chapter was exactly where you were meant to be.

Basically, all you can do is try to rush again. Have good grades, look presentable, carry great conversations, etc. Worrying about the rest of it isn't going to make a difference.

And next time... keep an open mind and be willing to accept the fact that you might not get a bid to your favorite chapter.

[TriDeltaSallie]

There is a possibility that seems to have been overlooked. It is possible that the poster is a Christian and was only invited back to one of the predominantly Jewish sororities. If this were the case, it wouldn't make sense for her to return if she felt she could never be comfortable there.

I have no idea if this is the case. But there are possible explanations that a PNM might not feel expressing in a public place with the PC police on the troll throughout the world.

Just a thought.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

There is a possibility that seems to have been overlooked. It is possible that the poster is a Christian and was only invited back to one of the predominantly Jewish sororities. If this were the case, it wouldn't make sense for her to return if she felt she could never be comfortable there.

I have no idea if this is the case. But there are possible explanations that a PNM might not feel expressing in a public place with the PC police on the troll throughout the world.

Just a thought.

This thread = getting a little ridiculous.

I'm certainly not one to say that a PNM doesn't have the right to accept/decline whatever invites she gets.

People also need to consider when they come here for advice and such, that they open themselves up for criticism (whether warranted or not). That's how asking for advice and such on the internet works.

I mean, if they only want someone to tell them what they want to hear about a situation, then perhaps they should ask their friends or people around them--rather than strangers on a message board.

This might sound harsh, but if she wants to hear "oh it was totally cool of you to decline a pref invite" she should probably ask someone else. That's not likely to be the response she gets here.

This has never been a "tell PNMs what they want to hear" kind of place, and I really don't want it to become that. I think it does a disservice to them if you ask me. If being honest with someone makes me "mean" or the "PC police" then so be it.

And for the record, there are TONS of threads where PNMs ask questions and get completely civil, polite and informative answers. I'd say that 90% of responses to PNMs are very helpful and polite. Not every PNM is "demonized here" at all. It's when they are in denial, rude, or just not wanting to accept the advice that THEY asked for, when people then have to be rude back.

The poster's question was answered VERY politely in the first few posts.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

There is a possibility that seems to have been overlooked. It is possible that the poster is a Christian and was only invited back to one of the predominantly Jewish sororities. If this were the case, it wouldn't make sense for her to return if she felt she could never be comfortable there.

I have no idea if this is the case. But there are possible explanations that a PNM might not feel expressing in a public place with the PC police on the troll throughout the world.

Just a thought.

You are reaaaaaaaaaally reaching.

[Thetagirl218]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

There is a possibility that seems to have been overlooked. It is possible that the poster is a Christian and was only invited back to one of the predominantly Jewish sororities. If this were the case, it wouldn't make sense for her to return if she felt she could never be comfortable there.

While I don't personally know about being a Christian in a Jewish based sorority; however, I have Theta sisters who are Jewish and being in Theta was never a problem. I am sure there are girls who Christians who also in NPC sororities based off of Jewish principles.