How to deal with the chronically late boyfriend?

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Since you said he completely forgot, perhaps he needs a reminder of some sort.

Unless his schedule is so packed that he needs to set alarms in order to remember things you've planned, then that's too much work for the OP. And if his schedule is that full, then maybe now isn't the best time for him to have a girlfriend anyway.

Seriously OP, you're his girlfriend not his secretary. You're not responsible for him - he is. smh

Oh, and if you like the idea of leaving if he isn't where he has agreed to be at the time he agreed to be there, then why put up with it at all? If you're going to leave without him anyway (and it sounds like you would after a week or so), then why bother dealing with all this crap? I just don't get it.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Unless his schedule is so packed that he needs to set alarms in order to remember things you've planned, then that's too much work for the OP. And if his schedule is that full, then maybe now isn't the best time for him to have a girlfriend anyway.

Seriously OP, you're his girlfriend not his secretary. You're not responsible for him - he is. smh

Oh, and if you like the idea of leaving if he isn't where he has agreed to be at the time he agreed to be there, then why put up with it at all? If you're going to leave without him anyway (and it sounds like you would after a week or so), then why bother dealing with all this crap? I just don't get it.

I didn't mean that she should set the alarms or make the appointments, he'd still be responsible for that. Some people have time management problems related to issues such as ADD or something else (not saying that this is the case here) and such organized structure and reminders help them function.

Too much cognitive psychology on the brain...

[MTSUGURL]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Oh, and if you like the idea of leaving if he isn't where he has agreed to be at the time he agreed to be there, then why put up with it at all? If you're going to leave without him anyway (and it sounds like you would after a week or so), then why bother dealing with all this crap? I just don't get it.

I'm talking about leaving without him a couple of times to get a point across.
I'm looking for a way to deal with it because I love the guy and am honestly looking for a way to either cope with this or get it across in a non-nagging way that this is important.

An update - yesterday we talked about this again, and I told him that I felt most loved and resepected when he makes an effort to do things that are important to me that aren't second nature to him (writing dates on a calendar so that he remembers birthdays and anniversaries, remembering to call me when he gets home if he leaves really late and is really tired, etc.) In return I don't freak out if we don't make plans 2 weeks in advance, etc.
He told me that he will work on it and make sure to call if he's going to be late more than 5 minutes.