How to deal with the chronically late boyfriend?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by MTSUGURL

My boyfriend is ALWAYS late for our plans. I'm not talking 5 minutes, 10 minutes, or even 15 minutes. I'm talking most times it's 1-2 hours. How do I deal with this? I've had people tell me to just leave the house and go somewhere when I've waited 20 minutes, I've had people tell me to just say I don't want to go anymore, and I've had people tell me to just start running on Joey time, meaning don't even start getting ready until it's time for us to leave. Help! I love this man to distraction but this is REALLY irritating me.

I would talk to him about it and tell him that it bothers you. Does he even know that it bothers you?

[PANTHERTEKE]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Does he even know that it bothers you?

Yeah, that's what I'm wondering.

[kddani]

I had a friend who was like this, drove me insane because I'm a very prompt person. NEVER on time.

It's kind of funny- it resolved itself when we graduated from school and she got out in the real world. A lot of times now she beats me places!

Being chronically late is being chronically rude to those who are stuck waiting for you. The occasional late is fine- stuff happens. But if it's constant, it's just rude. There's no excuse for it, it's preventable, it's something done by choice.
It says to whomever you're meeting that they're not important enough and that their time is worth less than yours.

Again, no excuse for it, it's just plain rude and inconsiderate. This would absolutely be a deal breaker for me. It also says something about his level of responsibility if he can't get his shit together to be on time for you.

Good luck pulling that in the real world! "But boss, I can't help being late every day!".

Buy him a watch, an alarm clock, then kick his behind to the curb!

[KSUViolet06]

i strongly suggest talking to him about it now. That way, he knows that it bothers you and he can't say "well I didn't know you cared that I was late." Talking about does not mean you're being a nag, you're simply bringing up something he does that bothers you.

If after you talked to him about it he is still late, then I think you should re-think your relationship with him.

I mean think about it, if he is 1-2 hours late for your dates and stuff now, and you DON'T say anything, he's just going to keep doing it. He'll continue to not respect your time and you'll continue to be upset.

And think about it this way: Would you want to be married to someone who is chronically late? He'd be the husband who shows up at couple's dinner plans when dinner is OVER and everyone is getting dessert. Or the guy who makes you miss the Broadway show that you really wanted to see for your anniversary. Who wants that?