de-pledging ?

[sweatcandy0590]

you're all making really valid points, but i want to clear a few things up to really get good advice.

i missed the first day of rushing because i'm from out of state, and because of severe weather conditions in the state i go to school in now, my flight was delayed. in fact, two days or rush got cancelled and crammed into one because of the weather, and that was the day i missed.

secondly, don't get me wrong, all the girls in the chapter i'm in now are sweethearts, and are by NO means hazing me, its just that (and i know this will sound superficial and dumb, but for the sake of being honest) i can never find any of my sisters that are willing to go out, which i love, or really do anything that i like to do. i usually end up going out with a large group of other chapters' sisters, making me think that i've been in the wrong place all along. because of our lack of common interests, conversation and common ground is something difficult to come by.

this may not make much of a difference, but i didnt want to put out the wrong message.

[KSUViolet06]

Question: Are you saying that there is not ONE girl in the chapter who shares your interests? Or is that what you're assuming?

You really do have to put yourself out there and hang out with different groups of sisters before you can say that NO ONE in the chapter shares your interests. It's hard to believe that out of an ENTIRE chapter of girls, not one will go out with you.

And to be quite honest, yes going out is fun, but is that the only aspect of the sorority that makes you want to quit? I find that to be really silly, especially if there are other things about the chapter that you like.

Also, something to ponder: How do you know that you'll even get a bid if you depledge and rush again?

And if you did get a bid to another chapter next year, how do you know that girls in THAT chapter will share your interests? It could end up being the same situation all over again.

I always encourage people to stick it out, just because you never know what you could be giving up. However, if all you're going to do is sit back and complain about people not wanting to go out with you, maybe it's best for you to drop out (thus mkaing room for someone who actually wants to be there).

[33girl]

Originally Posted by sweatcandy0590

you're all making really valid points, but i want to clear a few things up to really get good advice.

i missed the first day of rushing because i'm from out of state, and because of severe weather conditions in the state i go to school in now, my flight was delayed. in fact, two days or rush got cancelled and crammed into one because of the weather, and that was the day i missed.

secondly, don't get me wrong, all the girls in the chapter i'm in now are sweethearts, and are by NO means hazing me, its just that (and i know this will sound superficial and dumb, but for the sake of being honest) i can never find any of my sisters that are willing to go out, which i love, or really do anything that i like to do. i usually end up going out with a large group of other chapters' sisters, making me think that i've been in the wrong place all along. because of our lack of common interests, conversation and common ground is something difficult to come by.

this may not make much of a difference, but i didnt want to put out the wrong message.

I'm not saying we hold missing rush against you, but that women in the other sororities might, weather issues or not.

As far as going out is concerned, when I first joined my sorority, there were 2 factions, one who only liked to go to ABC fraternity and one who only liked to go to DEF. Those were the ONLY 2 fraternities our sisters partied with on a regular basis. I thought this was lame and wanted to go to ALL the fraternities, not just the "safe" ones. In the next semester's pledge class was a girl who felt the same as I did, and the 2 of us began hanging out at different fraternities. It helped get our sorority's name out and attract more women who were like us. What is that quote - be the change you want to see in the world? Ask some of the girls in your pledge class or other sisters to come along with you the next time you go out.

And just because these girls in the other sororities like going out with you, does not mean they would want you as their sister. There were girls I liked to party with that I would have never voted in because they wouldn't have been a good fit w/ the rest of the chapter.