advice needed...marriage/engagement problem.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by When Doves Cry

So I asked my boyfriend what he would in your situation. And his answer (to getting married) was "hells yeah" because then he wouldn't have to work and he can stay home and play video games.
he was kidding of course. lol. but he said if he couldnt find a job and I had an awesome job, he wouldn't mind at all. And he also said he would never make me wait 3 years to get married (after getting engaged).

I agree, I wouldn't make her wait 3 years either, but at the same time I would have never gotten engaged to her knowing I couldn't provide for her financially. If that's what works in your relationship then cool, but I think the OP needs to start bringing in some income so he can provide a place for her both materially and financially. We have this erroneous notion in our society that it's romantic for a young couple to get married, penniless but passionate and then live on love a while. That state of being gets old real fast. It takes money to have even a modest honeymoon , to set up a home, to provide, and eventually to provide for children if he has any. IMO, the income for the family is the husband's responsibility. I understand many woman work and that's cool. Two incomes are always better than one, but IMO the primary responsibility for providing for her rest on the man. I didn't say he had to make more money than her, I'm just saying it's his responsibility to serve and provide for her. That's hard to do delivering pizzas.

[LightBulb]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I didn't say he had to make more money than her, I'm just saying it's his responsibility to serve and provide for her. That's hard to do delivering pizzas.

That is what it sounds like you're saying, though. He's already working (though not making more money than her).