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Originally Posted by dancemodel6
I will give a little bit of a background but i almost have the same story as the girl that started this thread.
I was a transfer student so i rushed as a junior. I went through formal recuirment, 5 days plus bid night. My campus has 9 sororities, and about 600+ girls rushing. After the first ranking I was invited back to 2 houses. It was saddening. I decided to stay because one was one of my top choices and the other one was my very last choice, but hey atleas i liked one. When it came to ranking on pref night I thouht everything went well and i'd get into my top choice. I ranked them both, if you mentioned "sucide bid" theyd make sure you wouldnt do it. The next day i waited in line for my bid and i didnt get a bid for the house i wanted. My heart was broken. My Rho Gamma told me to go for bid day maybe id like the girls. Girls were nice but i felt uncomfortable, so i dropped out. As a junior i am left with no options, other then to rush in the Fall as a senior...To qualify for COB or Spring Rush i would have had to drop out on Pref night and not rank....that is another reason i signed the bid i had nothing to lose.
it seems a little unfair, especially for a transfer.
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I'll admit that it upsets me when Rho Gammas and Panhellenic exec and advisors make PNMs feel like they aren't allowed to SIP. It's like all they care about is matching percentages as opposed to happy members. PNMs should be given accurate information as to the consequences of ranking/not ranking and make that decision for themselves.
However, based on the information about you (transfer junior) and your campus (9 chapters, 600 PNMs), I don't think it matters. Let's suppose you did SIP. You would have gone unmatched and would have been eligible for spring informal recruitment.
1. Realize that few, if any, chapters will be participating. It is likely that the chapter you are bound to might be the only one participating. Your first choice made quota, so they probably won't be participating.
2. If other chapters are participating, they likely have very few spots to fill and will probably fill them quietly by bidding women that their members already know.
As a transfer junior, your chances aren't going to get any better as semesters pass. From the description of your campus, your class standing is likely a big factor working against you. Even if you were to depledge and try again next fall as a senior, I am willing to bet you'll be cut from every chapter on campus.
So what's the point? In your situation, I'm 99.9999% sure this was your only chance to be Greek. Your choices were this chapter or GDI. I would have advised you to try to find your niche in the chapter and if you really don't want to be a member, drop out before initiation. But it's too late.
(Side note: I'm not sure why you say it seems a little unfair especially for a
transfer. What makes the transfer part different from anyone else?)
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