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Originally Posted by SimplyME143
Just remember, I'm the one who came here for advice - not the one who has to put other people down to feel better about themselves
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So here's some serious advice, so you'll stop this:
You should take a hard look at some of the decisions you made in the relationship, both prior to the cheating, prior to you
finding out about the cheating, then after it was discovered. When I say "take a look", I mean this in the sense that your actions seemed more intent on punishment or expressing your own angst, anxiety or insecurity than actually solving the relationship issues or examining both a.) how to save the relationship and b.) whether the relationship needed to be saved.
The reason why I used the word "immature" before is because things like exchanging Facebook and Myspace passwords indicates a fundamental lack of trust, rather than a newfound trust - it seems like a mistake I would have made while younger, thinking that "sharing" is the same as "trust" when instead it's a total lack of trust.
Your contact with the other woman is likely the worst possible way to handle the situation - your problems were with
your boyfriend, not the other woman. She is, in all seriousness, totally irrelevant. The focus on her instead of him indicates insecurity on some level, and you should examine whether you're ready for anything serious at this point. You have to care for yourself first, before anyone else can.
You also seem quite closed off to any reasonable criticisms - which calls into question why you even posted this. Take a deep breath, and listen to what people are saying - you seem young, you still have plenty of time to get it together. Someday, you'll look back at this and laugh (that day is today, if you're trolling us).
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