Loved Ones Agianst Sororities :(

[MaggieXi]

I was in a similar situation when I went through recruitment. My boyfriend went to another school and basically yelled at me or made me feel badly or guilty for wanting to join a sorority claiming that I wouldn't have time for him, I would cheat on him and that I would become a different person that he didn't think he could love...well guess what, after listening to this cr*p for a few weeks into my new member period I broke up with him. He didn't want me to try new things and he couldn't be supportive. I loved my new sisters and my organization and the school I went to and he wasn't going to make me feel bad for that. And my sorority supported me, let me be sad and grieve about the loss of a two year relationship, but also wouldn't allow me to wallow in my own sorrow.

Years later I realized how absolutely controlling he was. Not just about joining a sorority, but about what colleges he thought I should go to, what I should wear, and who I should socialize with (ie his friends were better than my friends).

Going through recruitment is your choice - not his. People here will give you the same advice over and over again. Make a decision, make a move, but be willing to deal with the fallout. And be yourself.

And just as a karma note -- I'm happily married, involved as an alum to my sorority and he is single, bald, and unemployed.

[RareTreasure]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

Make a decision, make a move, but be willing to deal with the fallout. And be yourself.

You all in here are soo right....its like I know what you all are telling me is true....but its hard to listen and accept it. He asked me last night did I think I can be happy without a sorority and he and I being in a relationship? I said yes.....but I can be even happier if you support me in my decision. Ultimately I am going to do it.....we can yoke it out right now, because he knows how I feel...and he has until next semester to either get with the program, or I will have to do what I have to do (reguardless). Its just sad that it has to be this way......but as one person said before.....I will have support...I wont be alone going through it.....