Wedding Invitation Etiquette Question

[SWTXBelle]

I personally don't like giftcards or money as gifts. Part of giving a present is going to the trouble of picking it out, wrapping it, etc. Using a registry is good - at least you get to show some thought in what you pick out. Checks do seem somewhat of an afterthought, but given your SILs situation, it's understandable.

That said, NO BRIDE should EVER make a guest at a shower or her wedding feel that what he/she did was tacky. ANY gift is a wonderful gift - and to put a snide comment in a thank-you note is awful.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I personally don't like giftcards or money as gifts. Part of giving a present is going to the trouble of picking it out, wrapping it, etc. Using a registry is good - at least you get to show some thought in what you pick out. Checks do seem somewhat of an afterthought, but given your SILs situation, it's understandable.

That said, NO BRIDE should EVER make a guest at a shower or her wedding feel that what he/she did was tacky. ANY gift is a wonderful gift - and to put a snide comment in a thank-you note is awful.

I never thought of it that way - I guess I'm thinking pragmatically like "oh this might offset some of the post-wedding, home-starting costs."

The nicest thank-you coming out of the shower? From the girls who planned it, thanking me for coming into town a day early so that I could help with the food and set-up. FWIW, I don't think I can get too upset about it because the bride sent a nice thank you note to me, expressing her regret that my boyfriend and I couldn't make it (cousin getting married the same day in a different state).