Mom new to Greek, daughter rushing. needs help

[scoobydoo]

i'm not worried. i'm excited! she is my first to go to college and she is going to participate in something i never did and i want to learn about it so when she talks to me about it, i don't bombard her with lack of understanding. that's why I'm here.

[texas*princess]

the stickied threads give you all of the information you need to know. as mentioned before, your daughter will have a Recruitment Counselor who can answer her questions.

[adpiucf]

You haven't dropped the ball. Your daughter is the one going through recruitment. It is her responsibility to secure her own recommendations, show up to the events and ask her recruitment counselor any questions about the process.

The events will be coordinated around classes, and coordinated so that prospective new members (PNMs) don't have conflicts with parties at different sororities. At formal recruitment, the sororities all work together so there is a master schedule of parties.

All your daughter needs to do at this point is dress appropriately for the events (her Recruitment Counselor will best know how to advise her on the dress code for recruitment at her school; it varies by school each year), put a smile on her face and be a good guest at each event. When she receives invitations, she will use the good judgment you have raised her with to attend the max. number of parties she is invited to for that day. If she is invited to more than the max. number, she will use that same good judgment to cut the list down and keep the max. number of sororities based on the max. number of events that day.

After the final round of recruitment, the sororities will make their final lists of the PNMs they would like to invite to membership. Your daughter will also rank the sororities one last time in her order of preference of where she would like to become a member. If the lists match up, your daughter will receive a sorority bid. Because the sororities may only invite back a certain percentage of women after each round, your daughter may or may not be on the list at a sorority she liked. However, that is where ranking the sororities in her order of preference comes into play. She may not get her first choice, but maybe will get her second, third, etc.

It's a complicated process in that each day, the PNMs attend fewer events at fewer houses. But aside from that, recruitment is simply a week of interviews. Each organization has its own confidential methods of membership selection.

Good luck to you and your daughter.

[Kansas City]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

i'm not worried. i'm excited! she is my first to go to college and she is going to participate in something i never did and i want to learn about it so when she talks to me about it, i don't bombard her with lack of understanding. that's why I'm here.

In this situation, might it be best to let your daughter go through the process on her own and then inform you with her own personal experiences as they relate to her particular campus and Panhellenic culture? Our information (as posted in the stickies) is pretty general and your daughter’s situation is bound to vary slightly. Also, if recruitment is within the next week, you might not have the time or ability (past deadlines?) to worry about recommendation letters, etc. I'm sure that if your daughter is at least half as excited as you seem to be, she'll be more than happy to inform you of how her process went. Good luck.