Mom new to Greek, daughter rushing. needs help

[scoobydoo]

i did read most of them. lol but i was still a little confused. i guess i can't understand that if a girl chooses 3 sororities, and they have invited her back...how can she not get in?

also, would an email suffice to the sorority from my lady friends? or should my daughter carry around copies of this letter for all the sororites to have on hand? i don't know how would be a good time to get these letters to the houses. Also, does her referal have to be from a former greek? Or what if my lady friend belongs to house XYZ, I don't think house ABC would want a referal letter from my friend who was in XYZ?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

i did read most of them. lol but i was still a little confused. i guess i can't understand that if a girl chooses 3 sororities, and they have invited her back...how can she not get in?

The sororities cannot take everyone they want or who wants them or they would grow unmanageably large. Plus the sororities don't know who likes them best, just as the rushees don't know which sorority likes them best. The sorority usually invites more women back to their final parties than they can actually take.

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

also, would an email suffice to the sorority from my lady friends? or should my daughter carry around copies of this letter for all the sororites to have on hand? i don't know how would be a good time to get these letters to the houses. Also, does her referal have to be from a former greek? Or what if my lady friend belongs to house XYZ, I don't think house ABC would want a referal letter from my friend who was in XYZ?

Your daughter should NOT carry anything and email is not acceptable. If you have friends who are alumnae of sororities, ask them to write a recommendation form for your daughter (or better yet, your daughter should ask herself). They will know what you are talking about and take it from there. You should only ask women who are sorority alumnae to do this.

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

i did read most of them. lol but i was still a little confused. i guess i can't understand that if a girl chooses 3 sororities, and they have invited her back...how can she not get in?

I think you're treading into membership selection territory.

also, would an email suffice to the sorority from my lady friends? or should my daughter carry around copies of this letter for all the sororites to have on hand? i don't know how would be a good time to get these letters to the houses. Also, does her referal have to be from a former greek? Or what if my lady friend belongs to house XYZ, I don't think house ABC would want a referal letter from my friend who was in XYZ?

Absolutely under no circumstances does she carry this letter around. The rec letters should be submitted to the chapter BEFORE she goes through rush. And it's not just one standard letter, either. Each sorority has their OWN form they ask their members to turn in when they want to recommend a girl for membership. ABC members only write recs to the ABC house, etc.

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally Posted by scoobydoo

i did read most of them. lol but i was still a little confused. i guess i can't understand that if a girl chooses 3 sororities, and they have invited her back...how can she not get in?

also, would an email suffice to the sorority from my lady friends? or should my daughter carry around copies of this letter for all the sororites to have on hand? i don't know how would be a good time to get these letters to the houses. Also, does her referal have to be from a former greek? Or what if my lady friend belongs to house XYZ, I don't think house ABC would want a referal letter from my friend who was in XYZ?

you are talking here about recommentations. These should be from a member of XYZ to the XYZ chapter. a recommendation from a member of ABC won't count at XYZ. The member of XYZ who is providing the recommendation is responsible to getting that recommendation letter or form to the chapter, not your daughter. your daughter can help by providing a resume and stamped envelope addressed to the chapter to the recommender member, but the member is responsible for sending it in. if an email would be sufficient, that would be between the chaper and the member and the member would know that. Your daughter should not carry recommendations with her to give to the chapters.