Superficial Dealbreakers

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by SOPi_Jawbreaker

These are actually ones that I wouldn't necessarily mind dating. Though that may be because these characteristics (with the exception of the music snobbery and the partying all the time) describe a certain hot drummer I know.

I love musicians. I love tattoos and some piercings. I wouldn't want a guy that goes out and gets shit-faced every single Thur-Sat, but I would be ok with a guy that goes out most weekends to have a couple beers with his guys. I can be a little bit of a music snob myself sometimes, so I wouldn't mind a guy that's a little bit of music snob, but I wouldn't want to date a HUGE music snob.

Ahhhh...same here! I would like to add spiky bangs, goatee (especially the chin patch), and chuck taylors to that look. I also go for any type of visual artist and those who write poety, I guess I have soft spot for the artistic period.

I wouldn't date anyone who doesn't like to go out. What else is there to do on nights 10pm-2am? We don't have to do it all the time, but I would like to let loose once or twice a week. As for drinking, not only mild-moderate intoxication is fun, you can learn a LOT about a person after they had a few. A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts, or however that saying goes.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Hey, does anyone know what that white stuff is in the corners of a persons mouth? When I was in undergrad I went out with this guy who was ok looking, really nothing to write home about for his looks. He could hold a good conversation though. I forgot to mention this as a deal breaker for me, but everytime he would talk to me, there was this really gross white saliva stuff on each corner of his mouth. When he would talk, it was weird. I dunno, it was almost as if it wouldn't break apart. It just kept moving with his mouth. Sometimes it would be on the front of his lips. We were eating, but I had to stop. I thought I was going to gag. What is that? Gross.

Umm...toothpaste?

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

*Always choosing a chain restaurant

Originally Posted by LPIDelta

Amen!!! And worse is when they think the chain restaurant is the height of sophistication!

Good call! If someone takes me to Applebee's (worst of the chains, IMO) as a date, I'll probably dump them. I don't think we'll have anything in common.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

Good call! If someone takes me to Applebee's (worst of the chains, IMO) as a date, I'll probably dump them. I don't think we'll have anything in common.

I can understand meeting up there for a blind date or something - you have no idea if the other person likes sushi or whatever and you don't want them to feel uncomfortable or not be able to find something they like to eat. So you really do have to go for something sort of normal and bland.

But if it's someone trying to "impress" me, then yeah, pretty lame. (Dude who said Buffalo Wild Wings was the best restaurant ever, I'm looking at you.)

[Benzgirl]

[EEKappa]

I love this list!

My circa-'87 list included:

*smokers
*guys driving Camaros, Firebirds, etc.
*guys wearing gold chains
*GDIs

Tomorrow is my 19th wedding anniversary. I married a guy with all four, and he managed to correct the first three. And he's balding, but he's still cute.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

Umm...toothpaste?

No. It's really hard to explain. I'm sure you would know it if you saw it. It's really gross.

[LPIDelta]

Originally Posted by James

Anyone ever date someone with a characteristic of their deal breaker list before because you liked them for whatever reason?

I am dating someone right now who violates at least two of my deal breakers (no college degree and he chews), and probably more--well, because he is pretty to look at, he makes me laugh, and he is good at kissing.

The thing is though--the more time I spend with him, the more I find things to like about him. I have been very pleasantly surprised. He doesn't have a degree now, but he would like to finish someday, so the ambition is there. And the chewing, he doesn't do around me, so I can handle that for now (he promised to brush after!) So, I am happy I gave him a chance beyond the first date.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

No. It's really hard to explain. I'm sure you would know it if you saw it. It's really gross.

I know what you're talking about. I hate it.

I saw it today, too. Foam mouth is UNGOOD.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I know what you're talking about. I hate it.

I saw it today, too. Foam mouth is UNGOOD.

To tld221 and DSTCHAOS. Is that seriously what it is? Ya know, that's so gross looking. It doesn't look like foam though. For some reason when it was in the middle of his lips it looked like a thin line of mayonaise or something, and everytime he would talk it would look like it was going to break apart but it never would. I'm getting sick thinking about it. He was about a 3 on the hot scale, but he was really nice and very intelligent. I was going to try to get past the fugliness, but I just couldn't get past the white stuff (foam). Yuck.

Back then I used to think you could have one or the other. A hot guy who was a jerk, or a fugly guy who was a sweetheart. That's why I dated him. I wouldn't lower my standards like that again because I know that's not true now.