Disaffiliation - Page 3

UGAalum94 · #31 07-22-2008, 12:49 PM

ETA: Never mind, I see that the OP hasn't posted in months.

greekgirl88 · #32 07-22-2008, 01:21 PM

Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

icelandelf · #33 07-22-2008, 01:25 PM

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Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

What are your plans now that you have resigned your sorority?

UGAalum94 · #34 07-22-2008, 01:41 PM

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Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

But you sound like such a catch.

Seriously, if for some reason you matched with a group that wasn't worth it and you stuck with it through initiation and then disaffiliated [ETA: resigned membership]and went around telling people how lame and "not worth it" the group was, why would you assume that you'd even get a bid to a "better" and more "worth it" group? You seem like kind of a bad risk, frankly.

PeppyGPhiB · #35 07-22-2008, 01:59 PM

I'd just like to say that I think it's misleading to refer to this type of situation as "disaffiliation" or "disaffiliated." It may be technically correct, but "disaffiliation" is something recruitment counselors do to temporarily disassociate themselves from their sorority in order to serve in a neutral role during formal recruitment. The situations described in this thread should really be referred to as "termination of membership" or "resignation" which is obviously permanent.

greekgirl88 · #36 07-22-2008, 02:00 PM

You sound really rude.

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid. And I'm not going around telling people what group it is, so what does it matter if I share my personal experiences. I figure it would help someone understand my situation better so maybe they could help me. I was exteremly commited to my chapter until they let ME down.

And I wanted to get into another NPC sorority that would do something. However, now that I'm being told it's not possible, I just get into hopeful one or two service sororities.

greekgirl88 · #37 07-22-2008, 02:02 PM

That's true, but that's just the word that the officers of my chapter used. I like resignation much better.

PeppyGPhiB · #38 07-22-2008, 02:04 PM

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Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid.

I believe that was her point, dear.

33girl · #39 07-22-2008, 02:06 PM

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Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

Then why were all your other posts asking about refs for KKG, if you were already told that you couldn't initiate into another sorority? That was rude to the KKGs on here who took time to answer your questions.

ISUKappa · #40 07-22-2008, 02:13 PM

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That's true, but that's just the word that the officers of my chapter used. I like resignation much better.

Many members use disaffiliate incorrectly. I believe most organizations prefer the term "Resign Membership."

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Then why were all your other posts asking about refs for KKG, if you were already told that you couldn't initiate into another sorority? That was rude to the KKGs on here who took time to answer your questions.

Yeah, I had no idea she had already been initiated. Now I'm rather glad she had been.

UGAalum94 · #41 07-22-2008, 02:36 PM

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You sound really rude.

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid. And I'm not going around telling people what group it is, so what does it matter if I share my personal experiences. I figure it would help someone understand my situation better so maybe they could help me. I was exteremly commited to my chapter until they let ME down.

And I wanted to get into another NPC sorority that would do something. However, now that I'm being told it's not possible, I just get into hopeful one or two service sororities.

Good luck. Certainly, a service group should welcome your interest in doing more and probably can't let you down.

greekgirl88 · #42 07-22-2008, 03:19 PM

I don't know if they show the dates, but I just learned YESTERDAY that I couldn't get into another NPC sorority. The KKG posts were from much earlier in the year.

UGAalum94 · #43 07-22-2008, 03:33 PM

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I don't know if they show the dates, but I just learned YESTERDAY that I couldn't get into another NPC sorority. The KKG posts were from much earlier in the year.

For most of us who are members, that just seems really unlikely. There are a certain number of people who come here and ask about loopholes, etc, but most people are instructed during new member education and again when they resign membership that they are ineligible for memberships in other NPC groups.

And to tell you the truth, it's sometimes even mentioned during recruitment or in recruitment materials, when people have questions about re-rushing.

So, "gosh, I didn't know" doesn't quite do away with the seeming sketchiness of your posts.

You may be a perfectly lovely person in real life, but they way things have gone here doesn't fully reflect that.

icelandelf · #44 07-22-2008, 03:50 PM

Just to understand your situation, you posted today,

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I don't know if they show the dates, but I just learned YESTERDAY that I couldn't get into another NPC sorority. The KKG posts were from much earlier in the year.

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Is it possible to petition the NPC laws about not being about to join another NPC sorority after you've already been in one?

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I disaffiliated with my NPC sorority. I wish they would say that before you initiate into the sorority. I had no idea that there was no way out, even if it was the sororities fault. That seems highly unfair. What if the chapter didn't do anything while other sororities did? What if they harrassed or completely gave a girl the silent treatment to force her out? What about that? There should be a way to petition it.

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Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

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Originally Posted by greekgirl88

You sound really rude.

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid. And I'm not going around telling people what group it is, so what does it matter if I share my personal experiences. I figure it would help someone understand my situation better so maybe they could help me. I was exteremly commited to my chapter until they let ME down.

And I wanted to get into another NPC sorority that would do something. However, now that I'm being told it's not possible, I just get into hopeful one or two service sororities.

You said that you posted in the Kappa thread earlier in the year, which was two months ago in May. The date was May 8 of this year--

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I love Kappa Kappa Gamma. I've done research on KKG and gone to the house at my campus and talked with the girls, and I absolutely adore them. However, recommendations are almost always needed to get in, and I don't know anyone who would be able to write me one (I don't know any alumna!). Would it be possible to find an alumna through the Headquarters, get to know her for about a year, and then maybe get a recommendation?

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I've actually already gone through rush before and that's how I know that I love KKG. I only found this out after rushing was over though, after I could do some more research. Would it not be possible to do what I wanted to do in my previous post?

I'm thoroughly confused because you said that you had posted much earlier in the year but the date only goes back to May. Was there a mistake in posting dates? Perhaps a computer glitch?

AlwaysSAI · #45 07-22-2008, 04:07 PM

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Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

haha. I love when people say this because it's such crap. When I joined SAI, my chapter had just come back from a really tough time. We didn't do much. Were not affiliated with the school, didn't have chapter or inter-greek socials.

GUESS WHAT I DID TO CHANGE IT. I got on Exec, nominated a sister for a province award, nominated my chapter for two awards from the university, helped plan an inter-greek formal, pushed for inter-greek socials, made sure every sister had a copy of the yearbook directory, submitted a excerpt for each issue of Tempo!, helped plan and participated in numerous service projects, and planned and coordinated our first chapter composite since 2005, and that was all in one year.

My chapter maintained our affiliation with the university for the first full year since we were chartered. And, we won that award from the university--"Overall Excellence in Community Service". We beat out 3 D9s, two NPCs, and a few other well established campus orgs.

Being greek isn't about what the chapter can do for you. It's about what you can do to change the chapter and make it better.