Question About Quotas

UGAalum94 · #1 07-14-2008, 07:39 PM

There's been one pnm that I didn't write a rec for because I had reservations about her as a person. I also knew she wasn't a good fit for the chapter at the campus where she was rushing, so it wasn't going to be much of an issue.

It wasn't a situation for which she requested a rec and I passive aggressively didn't do one; it was a situation in which I was writing recs for the girls from my hometown and I just didn't take the initiative to do one for her.

I can't really imagine a girl who I had reason to not recommend ever directly asking for one, but I think I would just decline, rather than have her think I send in a positive one when really I was hurting her chances.

ETA: It would take pretty high level of proof of bad acts before I would really no rec, maybe arrest or suspensions from school. I just can't imagine a girl with a really bad hometown reputation asking for one.

Zillini · #2 07-15-2008, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

ETA: It would take pretty high level of proof of bad acts before I would really no rec, maybe arrest or suspensions from school. I just can't imagine a girl with a really bad hometown reputation asking for one.

You'd be surprised. Some PNMs simply don't understand that their past bad acts can haunt them. It was just 1 DUI or only a 3 day suspension. What's the big deal? I'm not a bad person and it was soooooooooooo long ago, like last year!

That's not the norm, though I have heard of it happening. Most No Recs come from an alum who took it upon herself to inform the chapter after finding out the PNM was going through Recruitment. The PNM probably had no idea that alum was writing anything.

carnation · #3 07-15-2008, 07:48 AM

No recs are pretty rare in my experience. I've written ony two...one for a girl who was in the group of Scouts I took to Asia and the other was this scarily insane girl who was at our daughters' camp. My daughters wrote their only no-recs ever on that one too.

UGAalum94 · #4 07-15-2008, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Zillini

You'd be surprised. Some PNMs simply don't understand that their past bad acts can haunt them. It was just 1 DUI or only a 3 day suspension. What's the big deal? I'm not a bad person and it was soooooooooooo long ago, like last year!

That's not the norm, though I have heard of it happening. Most No Recs come from an alum who took it upon herself to inform the chapter after finding out the PNM was going through Recruitment. The PNM probably had no idea that alum was writing anything.

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Originally Posted by carnation

No recs are pretty rare in my experience. I've written ony two...one for a girl who was in the group of Scouts I took to Asia and the other was this scarily insane girl who was at our daughters' camp. My daughters wrote their only no-recs ever on that one too.

This make me think that a thread about "people that you have/would no rec" might be pretty interesting.