yet another question about recs...lol

[gee_ess]

There are varying thoughts on this (and several threads) but if rush is competitive, the fact that you have 2 or 3 per house is good in my opinion - especially since your daughter is from out of state.

[Lamplighter]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

There are varying thoughts on this (and several threads) but if rush is competitive, the fact that you have 2 or 3 per house is good in my opinion - especially since your daughter is from out of state.

I've looked for any threads dealing with this and so far haven't found them. Would you direct me?

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by Lamplighter

I've looked for any threads dealing with this and so far haven't found them. Would you direct me?

There aren't really any threads specifically about the "how many is too many?" question, but if you read through the wealth of recommendation threads, you'll find what gee_ess is talking about.

As an SEC alum, I would say that 2 or 3 is good, but much more could be considered overkill. However, it always depends on the campus, the chapter, and even the relationship between the girl and rec-writers.

Overkill: A girl has 6 recs from random women who don't know her well, that could be considered overkill.
Not Overkill: A girl has 6 recs from Grandma, Mom, her two older sisters, and her two aunts, all of whom were ABC members. It's not like little Susie could say "No, Grandma, I don't want you to write me a rec." We had a girl go through recruitment once who had 15 or 16 DG family members and they ALL wrote recs for her, but we certainly didn't consider that overkill because they all loved her and wanted to share about their different takes on her... it's not like she could pick and choose and tell the others not to write them.

[SWTXBelle]

What you ideally want is well-written recs from women who know your daughter. The best way to get them is through networking now. If you can't get recs from someone who knows your daughter well, I would say it would be overkill to have more than 2 - 3 from, for example, Alumnae Panhellenic representatives.The chapters will really appreciate recs that tell them more than they can glean from the panhellenic recruitment forms. HTH

[Lamplighter]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

What you ideally want is well-written recs from women who know your daughter. The best way to get them is through networking now. If you can't get recs from someone who knows your daughter well, I would say it would be overkill to have more than 2 - 3 from, for example, Alumnae Panhellenic representatives.The chapters will really appreciate recs that tell them more than they can glean from the panhellenic recruitment forms. HTH

Fortunately, all the recs she has are from people who know her, if not well, then fairly well. Several are from family members, in fact.

Originally Posted by Lamplighter

Fortunately, all the recs she has are from people who know her, if not well, then fairly well. Several are from family members, in fact.

That's the best kind!