My Live Spring Rush Story

[OHNOITSJESS]

Well as I was considering going through FR [since i only met half of the orgs on campus and have heard some of the others are really great], but I got a mentorship/scholarship opportunity that I am wasn’t going to pass up, and you can't do FR [it happens at the same times]

Then, as I was considering going through Spring Rush and building up my contacts at various houses, my dear boyfriend [we are serious....] tells me he's 'taking alternate routes' with his fraternity [I don't want to disclose too much, his fraternity chapter president is on GC]. But he is saving up for grad school, taking 19 hours and taking an ancient language as his minor, so the “alternate routes” are the only way he can be affiliated ith his org.

Since we do plan to have a future together, and he is not getting any support from his family for going to gradate school/seminary, I have to get a job as well [I was planning on it anyways] but I won't be able to save up enough money, work, spend time with XYZ and do new member events, and get into my upper level engineering classes at the same time while having a life.

So basically, I can't pursue a sorority during my collegiate career.

I was working on starting a local among female engineers and affiliating with a national engineering org eventually.... but our Pan-Hellenic is causing so many problems with it I don't think it can happen, at least not before I graduate....

So the main point is I still desire sisterhood, friendship and a support network, along with something I can put my time into. Basically I think I’ll be pursuing a non-collegiate org and see where to go from there.... [i.e.: Beta Sigma Phi]

Am I going about this the right way?

Anyone have helpful advice?

[KSUViolet06]

Help me understand this. You need to get a job to help support your bf? Do you guys live together and share bills or something?

Originally Posted by OHNOITSJESS

I was working on starting a local among female engineers and affiliating with a national engineering org eventually.... but our Pan-Hellenic is causing so many problems with it I don't think it can happen, at least not before I graduate....

How are they causing problems with it? Your campus' Panhellenic can't stop you from starting your own local.

[FSUZeta]

and a national engineering sorority for women would likely not fall under the umbrella of the collegiate panhellenic council anyway. it's a different type of greek organization.

why don't you contact the national office of the engineering sorority directly and see what it takes to establish a chapter at your school?

honestly, it sounds like you are going to be way busy, with classes, work, boyfriend. i think you made the practical choice to not pursue npc membership.
congratulations on your scholarship!

[AlwaysSAI]

The only thing I would say is:

You shouldn't let your boyfriend's situation affect what you do in college. It is not your job to support him for grad school, bills, whatever. You are not his wife and it is up to him to take care of his own business.

I know you and your boyfriend are serious right now, but take it from someone that's been there--things change. And, if you let this job-so-I-can-help-my-bf thing stop you from pursuing sorority membership or anything else you will always regret it--especially if you two don't get married in the end.

I've been there. I was with a guy for three years and we were talking about marriage and then one day he didn't want me anymore.

But, at the end of the day, you have to be happy with the choice you made.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

The only thing I would say is:

You shouldn't let your boyfriend's situation affect what you do in college. It is not your job to support him for grad school, bills, whatever. You are not his wife and it is up to him to take care of his own business.

I know you and your boyfriend are serious right now, but take it from someone that's been there--things change. And, if you let this job-so-I-can-help-my-bf thing stop you from pursuing sorority membership or anything else you will always regret it--especially if you two don't get married in the end.

I've been there. I was with a guy for three years and we were talking about marriage and then one day he didn't want me anymore.

But, at the end of the day, you have to be happy with the choice you made.

Co-sign.

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

It is not your job to support him for grad school, bills, whatever. You are not his wife and it is up to him to take care of his own business.

Ditto.