Be a good big!

[KSUViolet06]

I have a pretty good relationship with my Big (I'm going to be in her wedding) and also with my Little (she and I live very close to each other).

Some things to think about:

I think it needs to be said that Big and Little Sis relationships are just like any other relationship. They take some work. It is a 2 way street. I'm not saying that this is what you're doing, but alot of new members feel like "OMG my Big doesn't spend every moment of her life with me like some othe bigs do, my big sucks!!" or "I'm the Little and she's the Big, she should make an effort to talk to ME!" Littles need to make the effort to interact with the Bigs as well.

Conversely Bigs need to think more before deciding to take on a Little Sis. Being a Big is not all about "OMG I am going to spoil my Little and buy her presents that are better than everyone elses." It's also not about "I'm going to take her because she wanted me." When you take on the responsibility, you're agreeing to be a mentor to that person, not just a gift giver.

I think sororities need to examine the Big-Little Sis program within their group and make sure that it is serving its correct purpose. They need to make sure that members understand that being a Big is more than spending money and it is more than the NM period.

Also new girls need to understand that the Big/Little relationship, while important, is not neccessarily the most important relationship you will ever have within the sorority. I think there's a HUGE misconception in sororities that your Big Sis will be your BFF in the chapter and you will be so super close. That's just not true. I love my Big of course and we are very good friends but she is not my closest friend from the sorority (my house room mate is actually). So there are girls you will be closer to who are not your Big Sis, and that's okay.

Best of luck with your situation and hopefully you can be a good Big yourself.