I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I am responding to your comment about being able to find black women of a similar background. These men are using the campus as their pool of potentials. So, whether or not there are black women who share their experiences off campus isn't what they are considering in that context. And whether or not they don't connect with black women when they graduate is unpredictable. People relate to and date what they are exposed to and their campus is what they're exposed to right now. And I don't think those men (based on what Totally Wicked said) are saying that Latina women are necessarily better than black women beyond the similar background (which doesn't seem like such a compliment, really) thing.

Well I interpreted Totally Wicked's comment to state that Black men are saying they cannot find Black women with similar upbringing as theirs on a college campus that they can date. So, they date "other women" because that is similar to their upbringing as theirs. What I am saying that these men are full of shit, regardless to make a blanket statement. And if they start when their young and not be held accountable for their thoughts, then how will they be any different as they age?

Ignorance breed contempt... And is not always bliss--in fact it might get you killed. One less person contributing to the gene pool...

What is sad is it is justifies a Black man's choice to be anything other than he wants to date {insert ethnic group here}. I don't think anyone is saying here they have issues with personal choices. Hayle a man can date a goat for all I care, but to say that Black women stink worse than goats, well...

I agree, it is not much of a compliment, though... And it is said that these ladies are buying that bullcrap these kind of bruhs are "rappin'" to them... Like Reefer and Liquor...

[TotallyWicked]

Well, from what folks have told me (Black men and Latinas that date one another), is that they do go with one another because of similar backgrounds...SES speaking, but I DO find it interesting, as some couple friends of mine are from areas of the country that are highly racially homogenous and/or segregated.

For example, a couple friend of mine is composed of a Mexican American woman from Los Angeles and an African American man from Detroit. Both have told me they were raised in low income neighborhoods and that they also were raised in neighborhoods and attended public schools of which their racial/ethnic group was either the majority or the entire make up of the school. Thus, coming to college was their first exposure to mass diversity (my school is located on the 2nd most diverse neighborhood in the nation).

Now there are several ways to look at this:
1) they are going for the first person who is unlike them racially/ethnically because of their past experiences
2) they are embracing the diversity of the neighborhood (reaching I know ) 3) They grew up not wanting to be with someone of their racial/ethnic group

and various more...in the long run, I am hoping that my friends are aware of the consequences and possible reactions of people...some of my other friends really go all out to say "Yeah, we're dating and you can't do anything about it!"....I'm like ok..pass the salt LOL

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by TotallyWicked

Thus, coming to college was their first exposure to mass diversity (my school is located on the 2nd most diverse neighborhood in the nation).

Now there are several ways to look at this:
1) they are going for the first person who is unlike them racially/ethnically because of their past experiences
2) they are embracing the diversity of the neighborhood (reaching I know )
3) They grew up not wanting to be with someone of their racial/ethnic group

and various more...in the long run, I am hoping that my friends are aware of the consequences and possible reactions of people...some of my other friends really go all out to say "Yeah, we're dating and you can't do anything about it!"....I'm like ok..pass the salt LOL

How come these friends of yours just cannot say to folks that saw each other and fell in love? Or like, whatever, they found uniqueness between each other that they decided to date. Cool Beans, whatever...

But to say, Black women aren't ______________. Well, that just sucks.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by TotallyWicked

Well, from what folks have told me (Black men and Latinas that date one another), is that they do go with one another because of similar backgrounds...

numerically, this doesn't compute.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Well I interpreted Totally Wicked's comment to state that Black men are saying they cannot find Black women with similar upbringing as theirs on a college campus that they can date. So, they date "other women" because that is similar to their upbringing as theirs. What I am saying that these men are full of shit, regardless to make a blanket statement. And if they start when their young and not be held accountable for their thoughts, then how will they be any different as they age?

Ignorance breed contempt... And is not always bliss--in fact it might get you killed. One less person contributing to the gene pool...

What is sad is it is justifies a Black man's choice to be anything other than he wants to date {insert ethnic group here}. I don't think anyone is saying here they have issues with personal choices. Hayle a man can date a goat for all I care, but to say that Black women stink worse than goats, well...

Well, hopefully and chances are, this is just because of that campus climate and they haven't "sold their souls." Out of that campus climate, they would be more able to find black women of their social class and experience background. Maybe.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

I agree, it is not much of a compliment, though... And it is said that these ladies are buying that bullcrap these kind of bruhs are "rappin'" to them... Like Reefer and Liquor...

"Well, well, well...the gang's all here...bring out the 40's."
~Shelby ~The Best Man~