New question re: transferring schools

[breathesgelatin]

I walk around in letters/sorority tshirts all the time and don't get asked about it. This is partially because UT is so big. And maybe I look like too much of a grad student, although I flatter myself that I could pass as an undergrad.

I don't think it's "sad". It doesn't bother me, actually, because I guess the girls figure I'm a transfer, a grad student, or an alum. I don't really see why you have to awkwardly approach everyone that wears your letters. Please. The few times I've worn Pi Phi shirts to TA in, I've met some of the undergrads in my lecture sections. That was sort of cool.

[KSUViolet06]

I understand that there are reasons why people choose not to affiliate with a new chapter at a new school, and it was never a big deal to me in undergrad if I met someone on campus who was a Sigma but didn't affiliate with us.

If we saw a girl in our letters, of course we would say hello to her be friendly (what most people do when they meet other sisters) and maybe invite her to come over and see the house and have lunch. If they were interested in getting involved further, then great, but we never pressured girls to affiliate because we never knew why it was that they chose not to.

In undergrad, there was a sister who came here for the architecture program from a smaller school. We saw her carrying her bag in one of the cafeterias. We went up and introduced ourselves and was really happy to talk. She told us that she loved Sigma but didn't want to affiliate because she couldn't afford dues and as a junior architecture major she had little time and didn't want to commit to it and then not be around (because once you affiliate you are responsible for participating). We still invited her to come tour the house and come to our philanthropy event. We understood that she didn't want to affiliate, but we still wanted to give her a chance to meet us.

[texas*princess]

When I transferred schools, I was already an iniated member of a business co-ed fraternity. I knew several of the members (from leadership conferences and things like that) but I chose not to affiliated with the chapter for several reasons.

They didn't treat me any differently than they did the active chapter members there (i.e. I wasn't "shunned" or anything) but I didn't have a real connection with the chapter.

If feeling connected is what your daughter seeks, I would follow the advice of those who said to get involved with an alum group nearby b/c the amount of time is not nearly that compared to an active collegiate chapter.

I don't know in what capacity your daughter is hoping to feel 'connected'... if you are referring to attending a random mixer or event, depending on the organization, I would think that it wouldn't be possible - because she wouldn't be paying dues which cover event costs & liability insurance.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I don't know in what capacity your daughter is hoping to feel 'connected'... if you are referring to attending a random mixer or event, depending on the organization, I would think that it wouldn't be possible - because she wouldn't be paying dues which cover event costs & liability insurance.

Very true. I know that in Tri Sigma, transfers must affiliate if they want to attend any official chapter events, because they haven't paid dues to our chapter. I would imagine that there are other sororities that have the same policy.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by breathesgelatin

I walk around in letters/sorority tshirts all the time and don't get asked about it. This is partially because UT is so big.

I would imagine that there are a lot of transfer Greeks at UT (based on LoveinZTA's experience), so it's not like someone wearing letters and not recognized by the Greeks at UT would really stick out.

Originally Posted by HDL66

She will be mostly "sequestered" in one building on campus for the next few years, and not really be part of the general student population. She probably won't meet any sisters unless they happen to be part of her academic program.

Architecture?