New question re: transferring schools

[ForeverRoses]

Hmm. I think it would be hard for someone to have a relationship with a chapter without any real connection to it. I could see becoming friends with some of the member via classes, study groups, etc.
If she wants some sort of connection, maybe her current president could send a letter of introduction to the new campus' chapter president that just introduces her so that they would know who she was if they saw her walking around in letters.

[Buttonz]

I didn't affiliate with the SDT chapter at my current school (for reasons of my own one of them being they are totally different from my chapter) and I walk around in letters all the time. I have yet to be stopped or asked about them, including when I'm sitting in class with my sisters

[AZ-AlphaXi]

She could also pursue joining the local alumnae association ... much less time commitment but still offers support and sisterhood, not to mention the chance to network with local alumnae.

[33girl]

How big is the school and the chapters? I think if the school and Greek system are smaller, she's more likely to meet sisters. I know if my chapter would have met a sister in your daughter's situation, we most likely would have said "hi! Where were you an ASA?" and asked her to hang out with us at parties or such, but not any official events.

If it's a bigger school though, it might be less likely that she'll get to know any of them. However, there's a possibility that if the chapter is bigger it might be easier for her to be active...if she was in a chapter of 30 and had to hold multiple offices, she could go to a chapter of 120 and be "just" a member without having so many responsibilities.

And the last option is, it could have nothing to do with size and it could turn out that she and the chapter at her new school just have absolutely nothing in common and no desire to be in each other's company. Sometimes chapters can be funny too....they think if they didn't put those letters on your back, you shouldn't be wearing them around at all.

She can always contact sisters she finds on myspace or facebook and explain her situation. Good luck to her!

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Sometimes chapters can be funny too....they think if they didn't put those letters on your back, you shouldn't be wearing them around at all.

No comment.

[TrojanWoman]

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

No comment.

That's a first

[HDL66]

Thanks for your experiences and ideas.

Originally Posted by Buttonz

I I walk around in letters all the time. I have yet to be stopped or asked about them, including when I'm sitting in class with my sisters

I must say, Buttonz, this just made me sad! Even if a sister were from a chapter that was totally different from my own, I can't imagine ignoring her if she were sitting in the same class with me! If that's reality, though, I appreciate you sharing what it is really like!

Originally Posted by 33girl

How big is the school and the chapters? I think if the school and Greek system are smaller, she's more likely to meet sisters. I know if my chapter would have met a sister in your daughter's situation, we most likely would have said "hi! Where were you an ASA?" and asked her to hang out with us at parties or such, but not any official events.

If it's a bigger school though, it might be less likely that she'll get to know any of them. However, there's a possibility that if the chapter is bigger it might be easier for her to be active...if she was in a chapter of 30 and had to hold multiple offices, she could go to a chapter of 120 and be "just" a member without having so many responsibilities.

And the last option is, it could have nothing to do with size and it could turn out that she and the chapter at her new school just have absolutely nothing in common and no desire to be in each other's company. Sometimes chapters can be funny too....they think if they didn't put those letters on your back, you shouldn't be wearing them around at all.

She can always contact sisters she finds on myspace or facebook and explain her situation. Good luck to her!

Both my daughter's current and future schools have 20,000+ students, competitive recruitments and large (120+) chapters. I think she has probably made the best decision for herself (less stress if she needs more time to devote to school) and for the chapter (not taking up a bed that could be filled by someone who has more time and energy to be involved.) She will be mostly "sequestered" in one building on campus for the next few years, and not really be part of the general student population. She probably won't meet any sisters unless they happen to be part of her academic program.

When I was in school, one of my pledge sisters was admitted to vet school as a junior. She barely had time to eat and sleep at the house, much less contribute in other ways! Since she had been involved in the chapter as a freshman and sophmore, it was much easier for her to feel a part of the house than it would have been if she had affiliated as she started vet school. We were probably also more "forgiving" of her academic time commitments as well.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

If she wants some sort of connection, maybe her current president could send a letter of introduction to the new campus' chapter president that just introduces her so that they would know who she was if they saw her walking around in letters.

i think this is a lovely idea.

ksuviolet06-i love the way your chapter approached sisters that had transferred to ksu-that is what sisterhood is all about!