When "the one" doesn't think YOU are "the one"

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Yikes.

Because you shared that your husband told you that you're not his soul mate and that it bothers you. Now you're sharing that he's saying things of the same nature years later. I'm just surprised to see someone confess to experiencing that in their current relationship. That would make me sad. I've heard people say that they believe their spouse is one of their soul mates but never that they aren't a soul mate at all. But as long as it doesn't pose problems and isn't a deal breaker for you and yours, best of luck to ya.

Well, of course I am hurt, but it is called domestic violence to beat his head with a chair and no one is worth me going to prison over...

Naw, if I left him due to diarrhea of the mouth and premature loose lips in our marriage, I would have been unable to work on those things that he actually adds to my life.

No one is perfect before the marriage altar and holding onto our vows we made are truer now than ever before. I guess this is what we are doing together. And my husband and I eloped. So he did not know my soul back then, really. And then I had my ideas about a marital relationship that I have now found to be inaccurate for me.

To be married and sustain it, what worked for me, us, is ultimately, we chose each other to love.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

To be married and sustain it, what worked for me, us, is ultimately, we chose each other to love.

Oh I look at soulmates as a choice to love, too, so my view of soul mate may differ with others'. I believe that people are brought into your life for a reason but that every soulmate or person you love isn't marriage potential. When it's all said and done, we choose who to get to know and whether we want to take it to the next level.

No doubt you've got it all in check.

It just made me think of the OP's question about "the one" and how some people would keep trying even if their mate (even spouse) told them that they aren't "the one." But that may be different than soul mate, depending on how folks define it.