Embarassing Rush Moments

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

At the very last minute, I was warned by someone not to even wear black, and so I was going through my closet like a mad woman --- none of my nice clothes were going to work! They were all "no-go" colors or black, and it was 11PM the night before; what on earth was I going to do?? I made a run to the Walmart, the only place open that late that sold clothes, bought the only pair of pants and shirt that looked decent, even though they really didn't QUITE fit, and wore that to RUSH. I was soooo uncomfortable in my bad-fitting clearance rack Walmart clothes (the pants totally fell apart not too long later, but THANK YOU!!! they held together for the whole event), but I guess I pulled it off. And there were plenty of interests there in black suits!

Right, soror. Frankly, I think that black or any other neutral like brown, beige, or gray is perfectly acceptable.

[IlovemyAKA]

Originally Posted by mccoyred

Right, soror. Frankly, I think that black or any other neutral like brown, beige, or gray is perfectly acceptable.

I agree. You have to know how to wear it though. At my rush, we had someone with a beige skirt suit, but the skirt was short, and she had on dark black pantyhose.

At another rush, we had an individual show up in black slacks, a green t-shirt, and a Baby Phat coat. Said individual also started nodding off toward the end of rush and looking irritated like she was ready to leave.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by AKA2D '91

FFR (For Future References): Make sure your phone is off, on vibrate or summin. Tell your peeps don't contact you for one, two, three hours.

Don't put the phones on Vibrate, because some phones vibe really loud. Turn it on silent, or leave it in the car. I left my phone in the car. However, someone at the Rush I attended had thier phoneon Vibrate and it rang ALL night!! It was sooo loud the ringer may as well had been on.

[mccoyred]

Originally Posted by IlovemyAKA

I agree. You have to know how to wear it though. At my rush, we had someone with a beige skirt suit, but the skirt was short, and she had on dark black pantyhose.

At another rush, we had an individual show up in black slacks, a green t-shirt, and a Baby Phat coat. Said individual also started nodding off toward the end of rush and looking irritated like she was ready to leave.

LOL. Colors aside, there is still such a thing as appropriateness, something which far too many people lack these days!

[IlovemyAKA]

Yea, she was trouble beforehand. Once she came to a program with a shoebox, changed shoes, and left the box near the entrance. When the speaker asked a question about health, she decided to respond complete with a four-lettered word sprinkled in.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by mccoyred

LOL. Colors aside, there is still such a thing as appropriateness, something which far too many people lack these days!

And that to me is the real key.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by mccoyred

Right, soror. Frankly, I think that black or any other neutral like brown, beige, or gray is perfectly acceptable.

I agree.

But to take it further, I also don't think this should be taken to the extreme. For example I can understand a prospect thinking I am going to the Delta RUSH, so I should indicate that by wearing red and white. I mean there is nothing on our website, or anywhere else that indicates certain colors should not be worn, so it is possible a prospect really would not know.

For example DSTRen, may have been told not to wear black, because the members would be wearing black at the RUSH and it was a matter of distinction.

Very honestly, imo, this whole prohibition of colors (which did not exist when I was a RUSHEE) is just another way to pre-reject folx.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

I agree.

But to take it further, I also don't think this should be taken to the extreme. For example I can understand a prospect thinking I am going to the Delta RUSH, so I should indicate that by wearing red and white. I mean there is nothing on our website, or anywhere else that indicates certain colors should not be worn, so it is possible a prospect really would not know.

For example DSTRen, may have been told not to wear black, because the members would be wearing black at the RUSH and it was a matter of distinction.

Very honestly, imo, this whole prohibition of colors (which did not exist when I was a RUSHEE) is just another way to pre-reject folx.

I did not know there was an issue with aspirants wearing black because at the rushes I attended Sorors did not wear black. A couple of rushees wore red. The Sorors glanced but didn't make a big deal. It did not hurt the young ladies' chances because they were stellar women (and are now stellar Sorors).

Black or grey was a first choice for me as an aspirant because I assumed the Deltas would wear red. I did not want to appear presumptuous or disrespectful. I also didn't want aspirants coming to me asking for applications or anything . We weren't told what not to wear, they just trusted that we'd have common sense not to wear red--and even wanted to see what colors we'd choose on our own. They just told us business attire/business casual.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I did not know there was an issue with aspirants wearing black because at the rushes I attended Sorors did not wear black. A couple of rushees wore red. The Sorors glanced but didn't make a big deal. It did not hurt the young ladies' chances because they were stellar women (and are now stellar Sorors).

Black or grey was a first choice for me as an aspirant because I assumed the Deltas would wear red. I did not want to appear presumptuous or disrespectful. I also didn't want aspirants coming to me asking for applications or anything . We weren't told what not to wear, they just trusted that we'd have common sense not to wear red--and even wanted to see what colors we'd choose on our own. They just told us business attire/business casual.

We have worn black and we have worn red. But like your chapter we gave little notice to whether aspirants were wearing those colors. I guess as an alumnae chapter it was no big deal.

I hear ya about not wanting someone comungnup to you as a rushee asking for an application - LOL. But now that more controlled.

[ShawNuff]

I'm not sure if this qualifies as an embarassing rush moment per se, since it was (thankfully) whispered and not posed as a general question before the entire group . . . but how about:

"Hey, does that [money] include our line jackets? 'Cause I want a white one. Do we get to pick?"