LB's/Dating/Frat Hoes

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This convo comes up from time to time off the internet and not just among Greeks:

I'm not a frequent clubber but I believe that good people can be met at certain types of "club events." That's because EVERYONE thinks they're the only good person in the club. But if YOU'RE in the club, even for that one visit, why can't other good people be in the club?

Lastly, outside of the "fraternity superfreak" context, I think that people gossip too much about what other people are doing. And men often exaggerate who they've been with and the context in which they've been with people. Sometimes just to brag and share notes and sometimes they're bitter that a woman doesn't want them so they want to make sure no other man wants her. So when I see women labeled as "hoes" (which happens far too often while men with many sexual partners are considered "just men"--I see that PrettyBoy doesn't live by that double standard), I take it with a grain of salt. I use the term "hoe" to refer to men and women who are careless with their sexuality and find some way to make it everyone's business. Not just because they dealt with the wrong person who ran his or her mouth. It's subjective and isn't only based on number of sexual partners, especially since no one has to tell you how many people they've been with when they get with you. And if they refuse to tell you, it isn't safe to assume they've been with a lot of people, it's just not your business so stop guessing.

Someone with 20 sexual partners isn't automatically a "hoe" if most people don't know their past BUT someone with 2 sexual partners can be a "hoe" depending on how it was done and who is talking. This doesn't mean that it's acceptable to sleep with entire groups of people (like men who sleep with sorority chapters) or rack up more mileage points than a frequent flyer.