Would you rather...

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Like I said on the who was your rho chi thread, I personally would want to attend a second night anyway, just to make sure that's where I wanted to be. We gave out lots of open bids, but I don't recall ever giving one to someone who had come to only one open bid party, who didn't know anyone in the sorority previously.

But yeah, I would be turned off if some girls got a bid the first night and others had to "prove" themselves by showing up a second night. What's the reasoning behind this concept - snap them up before another sorority gets them? I mean, it seems like it would be nicer, easier and less of a cluster@#$& to give out all the bids at once.

I pmed you by the way

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I probably would attend the 2nd night. Besides, there's no way I'd know they were on the fence about me unless somebody told me.

Knowing my personality, it would probably freak me out if I saw other girls from the 1st night there as NMs because then I'd think they liked me less than everyone else.

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

For the first question, when I was in school and I would have said the group that I loved. Now I would like to think I would say the group that loved me.

As for the 2 nights of rush thing, I think I would still go to the second night of rush, but I would start to question it after I found out that some people got bids the first night while others had to come back. I would say the chapter should wait until all the decisions are made and offer all the bids at the same time. Especially since all the women will be in the same NM class- they will talk and figure out that some were chosen right away while others had to wait.

I know it is a completely different beast (i.e. NPCs have quota and campus total), but this is something that is often done with IFC chapters. And generally with good results. That is to give bids "early" (the first possible night as it were) to the rushees already known (and voted on) by chapter members. Those rushees that are not known, they may need more time to meet the membership. However, just because their bid was extended a day or two later does not mean their bid is any less worthy than those who received it "day one".

ETA: two other quotes and to note that my comment was not directed toward 33girl (or anyone else) but just using her post as a springboard to further the discussion.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by TSteven

I know it is a completely different beast (i.e. NPCs have quota and campus total), but this is something that is often done with IFC chapters. And generally with good results. That is to give bids "early" (the first possible night as it were) to the rushees already known (and voted on) by chapter members. Those rushees that are not known, they may need more time to meet the membership. However, just because their bid was extended a day or two later does not mean their bid is any less worthy than those who received it "day one".

ETA: two other quotes and to note that my comment was not directed toward 33girl (or anyone else) but just using her post as a springboard to further the discussion.

This is another Guys and Girls Are Different issue. I don't think guys would be offended by this, but girls would. It's just a gender thing.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by 33girl

This is another Guys and Girls Are Different issue. I don't think guys would be offended by this, but girls would. It's just a gender thing.

Well, that is what I was thinking. However, in general, it seems like COR/COB is more like IFC rush in many ways. So I wasn't sure if it would make that much of a difference.

[violetpretty]

This is inevitable at my campus. Since PHA has been moving toward having little to no involvement in informal recruitment, they set a date where chapters can have parties and give bids (the same day). If your chapter waits to give bids until all of your open house and invite parties, "your" girls will have been snatched up by other chapters.

ETA: Almost always, the first few to get bids are women we already know, so it really isn't an issue of favoritism, but just of knowledge.