Feigning Interest in PMs

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by luv n tpa

Reminds me of a lovely event I experienced as a PX.

"Sara" & "Jen" promised each other that they would be pledge sisters no matter what. Jen had her heart set on XYZ and only ever went to their parties. Sara also liked XYZ but went to other parties as well.

Come pref night, Sara attended XYZ and TPA. Once again, Jen is only at XYZ.

Bid day arrives: Sara received bids to both organizations. She accepted TPA, because she thinks Jen did not get her bid to XYZ and went with where her heart was. Later she discovered that Jen was late in receiving her bid to XYZ because she is a commuter. President of XYZ told Sara she can change her mind and accept XYZ instead. So Sara CHANGED her bid acceptance later on that night so she could be with BFF Jen.

Don't even get me started on how our Greek Director let this happen.

Well, if Sara only verbally accepted to Theta Phi and didn't sign anything, then I guess technically she could change her mind. If she signed something, I would be absolutely irate if I were in your chapter because that's against NPC rules! But still, that was really lame if Sara's heart was with Theta Phi.

There was a pair like this a couple years ago. They initially wanted to be together, but then they both fell in love with different chapters. Come pref, they each had the same second choice and both got bids there!

[adpiucf]

I don't see anything wrong with this process. This is a membership drive. Ostensibly, if you meet a guy who you think would be a great addition, you'd encourage him to come out to rush and to bring his friends. His friends are likely to be as great as he is. Or there may be some duds.

I wouldn't call it feigning interest or stringing anyone along. They're trying to find the best possible members for their organization. A larger applicant pool makes this possible. The more guys who come out, the more who hear about it. This brings more people out, and more potentially strong additions.

Are you one of those people who gets mad if you don't get a job offer after the 3rd interview because they were just stringing you along and wasting your time? Because that was their ulterior motive. Wasting your time. They had nothing better to do because they picked their candidate out already. Yessiree. Just waste your time and avoid all of the work piling up around them just so they could inconvenience you.