Feigning Interest in PMs

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

This is one of the nice things about women's formal rush - even if groups of friends are rushing at the same time, most likely they'll get separated when the rho chi groups are created.

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Even if they are in separate groups, you can still find yourself with 2 girls who consider themselves a "package deal."

Usually the twosome will break up as soon as one of them decides to take recruitment seriously and stops trying to end up in the same sorority as the other one.

Here's a good story about that from my Big (who was a PX):

One time, there were 2 roomies who were rushing, named Jane and Katie. When rush started, these 2 had it plaaned out that they were going to get bids to the same chapter and be sisters. They had it planned out that they would only go to the parties to which they were BOTH invited.

Katie even told a sister during a party: "My roomie Jane says that she, like, has you guys on her schedule later. I hope you guys like her because we REALLY, like, want to be in the same, like, sorority on bid night. I like, won't join a sorority if Jane doesn't get a bid there too."

Jane said the SAME thing about her at a different sorority, so word got around that these two were a package deal. Everybody seemed to like Jane alot better though because Katie was a little obnoxious.

Well, when it came time for girls to get invites back, the 2 girls had completely different results. Jane had a full schedule (4), while Katie only had ONE sorority left.

When they got back to the dorm, Jane was totally excited about the next round. Katie says "OMG I can't wait for us to be XYZ's (the only sorority she was asked back to) together. Did you tell your Rho Chi that you're only going to XYZ tomorrow?" Jane who had started to think that doing rush "together" was a bad idea, said "I dunno, I kinda want to go back to my other 3 too."

Katie was so upset and mad at Jane for wanting to go to her full schedule instead of only going to XYZ with her. She dropped out of recruitment the next day. Jane finished recruitment and ended up getting a bid to her top choice.

In the spring, Katie attended COB at Jane's sorority, hoping that they could still be sisters. She didn't get a bid. It proved to be too much for their friendship because Katie moved out soon after.

[kathykd2005]

I had a similar experience to that described above, with one key difference--my room mate and I DID join the same sisterhood. I guess it just happened to fit both of us equally well.

[luv n tpa]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Even if they are in separate groups, you can still find yourself with 2 girls who consider themselves a "package deal."

Reminds me of a lovely event I experienced as a PX.

"Sara" & "Jen" promised each other that they would be pledge sisters no matter what. Jen had her heart set on XYZ and only ever went to their parties. Sara also liked XYZ but went to other parties as well.

Come pref night, Sara attended XYZ and TPA. Once again, Jen is only at XYZ.

Bid day arrives: Sara received bids to both organizations. She accepted TPA, because she thinks Jen did not get her bid to XYZ and went with where her heart was. Later she discovered that Jen was late in receiving her bid to XYZ because she is a commuter. President of XYZ told Sara she can change her mind and accept XYZ instead. So Sara CHANGED her bid acceptance later on that night so she could be with BFF Jen.

Don't even get me started on how our Greek Director let this happen.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by luv n tpa

Reminds me of a lovely event I experienced as a PX.

"Sara" & "Jen" promised each other that they would be pledge sisters no matter what. Jen had her heart set on XYZ and only ever went to their parties. Sara also liked XYZ but went to other parties as well.

Come pref night, Sara attended XYZ and TPA. Once again, Jen is only at XYZ.

Bid day arrives: Sara received bids to both organizations. She accepted TPA, because she thinks Jen did not get her bid to XYZ and went with where her heart was. Later she discovered that Jen was late in receiving her bid to XYZ because she is a commuter. President of XYZ told Sara she can change her mind and accept XYZ instead. So Sara CHANGED her bid acceptance later on that night so she could be with BFF Jen.

Don't even get me started on how our Greek Director let this happen.

Well, if Sara only verbally accepted to Theta Phi and didn't sign anything, then I guess technically she could change her mind. If she signed something, I would be absolutely irate if I were in your chapter because that's against NPC rules! But still, that was really lame if Sara's heart was with Theta Phi.

There was a pair like this a couple years ago. They initially wanted to be together, but then they both fell in love with different chapters. Come pref, they each had the same second choice and both got bids there!

[adpiucf]

I don't see anything wrong with this process. This is a membership drive. Ostensibly, if you meet a guy who you think would be a great addition, you'd encourage him to come out to rush and to bring his friends. His friends are likely to be as great as he is. Or there may be some duds.

I wouldn't call it feigning interest or stringing anyone along. They're trying to find the best possible members for their organization. A larger applicant pool makes this possible. The more guys who come out, the more who hear about it. This brings more people out, and more potentially strong additions.

Are you one of those people who gets mad if you don't get a job offer after the 3rd interview because they were just stringing you along and wasting your time? Because that was their ulterior motive. Wasting your time. They had nothing better to do because they picked their candidate out already. Yessiree. Just waste your time and avoid all of the work piling up around them just so they could inconvenience you.