Dropping out.

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I would wager that most who drop out of their sorority would not then be hanging around and posting on a message board aimed at promoting Greek Life. Just saying...

If she is getting nothing out of her membership after making a concerted effort to get the to source of her unhappiness, then she should drop out. If she is an initiated sister, this is the end of the line. She can't join another sorority ever again.

On the other hand, if she hasn't sat down to figure out why she is unhappy, this is a good time to figure it out. Is it a sister she doesn't see eye-to-eye with? A group of people? Is she stressed out because of school, work or family? Is there a boy involved? Or is it financial? Has she isolated herself because she's been busy with school and she's frustrated that no one has called her up to see how she is? Did the chapter vote a certain way on an issue she doesn't approve of?

Is the source of her unhappiness truly significant enough for her to cut ties with an organization that once made her so happy? Think big picture.

If she can't bear the thought of confronting her unhappiness or the potential person causing it, she can certainly avoid it by quitting the sorority. But this will only provide a temporary band-aid to the problem if she can't speak up for herself and voice what is wrong.

If the problem is just that no one is making an effort to spend time with her, she needs to pick up a phone and make some effort herself. Sisterhood does not equal friendship. Membership in the same organization does not require anyone to go out of their way to like or help you. Friendship is a two-way street and sometimes, you need to put yourself out there in order to be noticed and heard.

Just some thoughts.