bigs/littles

[SthrnZeta]

My chapter had the same policy as MaryAmanda's. When I was an undergrad, the whole adopting policy pissed me off - your big is your big forever, you don't just choose a new once since you don't like the one you got. Me and my big weren't/aren't very close but she's the only big I'll ever have, none of that adopting crap. As for the OP's situation - I'd say if the little bro felt the same way, then let him go. Be the bigger man and continue to be an exemplory brother to all the brothers. It is ultimately the pledgemaster's decision I guess, but I think a sit-down talk would have been better and more respectful to you and probably would have made it so that you didn't feel so bad about this ultimate outcome because at least then you would have had a say. At the same time though, I can see how the little might have felt uncomfortable saying he wanted a new big right in front of you - you're supposed to be able to talk to your pledgemaster about this kind of stuff and not worry about other people hearing about it or getting hurt by it since it will have come from the pledgemaster.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

My chapter had the same policy as MaryAmanda's. When I was an undergrad, the whole adopting policy pissed me off - your big is your big forever, you don't just choose a new once since you don't like the one you got. Me and my big weren't/aren't very close but she's the only big I'll ever have, none of that adopting crap.

I completely agree with you on this. The big sis in the situation will often get hurt after putting a lot of time and money into the process. If you find someone in the chapter who you are closer to than your big, great! But...do they really need to be your "Big Sis?" The only exception I can think of would be what happened with my real sister. Her big sis graduated the semester after my sister was initiated. She loved her Big Sis, but she was "adopted" by another older sister who took over as a mentor in the chapter after her original sis went alum.