Parents against sororities....

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by epchick

I call BS.

I grew up Roman Catholic and about 8 years ago started going to a Pentecostal church. How do you consider that stricter (is that a word? lol) than Catholicism? I would say the otherwise. I understand there are different secs of a Pentecostal church (which some are very strict) but you claim you aren't a member of those.


Also on another note (based on a PM) I would say that you have to worry more about your grades than you do about money. Sororities have a minimum GPA that you have to have.

Been following the whole Pentecostal vs. Catholic thing. Though there are some very conservative Catholic sects, I haven't seen any sects that prohibit dancing, drinking, etc. (Speaking strictly about the laity here) These things have been prohibited in some Pentecostal, Baptist, and other Protestant sects. That isn't to say that some Catholic families aren't incredibly strict. Rule wise though, that isn't there.

Now if you mean other sorts of strictness, yeah the Catholic church can be very orthodox on many things (attire for Mass, Lenten rules, Communion rules, etc) .

For the record, the current Pentecostal movement isn't older than the 1700s. Throughout history, people have spoken in tongues, but they weren't a separate sect at the time, and were part of the Roman or Eastern church.

It isn't surprising that a person from India/first generation Indian-American would follow stricter rules of whatever religion since familial rules tend to be stricter in the first place. Telling the OP or others that they must not really be X, or that they're misunderstanding X's rules won't change the rules of her family and how she and her family practice their religion.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Now if you mean other sorts of strictness, yeah the Catholic church can be very orthodox on many things (attire for Mass, Lenten rules, Communion rules, etc) .

Yes, this is more of what I meant by the Catholic church being "stricter." I understand that there are different sects of churches that allow only skirts and things, but it isn't only extreme Pentecostal churches that have that.

But anyways....on to something I was wondering.

I know that Alpha Phi has scholarships, but (at least from what i understand) our scholarships are STRICTLY for APhi members. Do any sororities have scholarships for non-members?

[Taualumna]

Originally Posted by epchick

Yes, this is more of what I meant by the Catholic church being "stricter." I understand that there are different sects of churches that allow only skirts and things, but it isn't only extreme Pentecostal churches that have that.

But anyways....on to something I was wondering.

I know that Alpha Phi has scholarships, but (at least from what i understand) our scholarships are STRICTLY for APhi members. Do any sororities have scholarships for non-members?

Alumnae Panhellenic groups often have scholarships for ALL NPC in a particular area.

Originally Posted by Taualumna

Alumnae Panhellenic groups often have scholarships for ALL NPC in a particular area.

My APH group gives scholarships to local women in NPC sororities as well as local incoming freshman women who attend a school with at least one NPC chapter. The latter group isn't obligated to join an NPC group once they get to college. Some eventually do, but some decide that Greek Life just isn't for them.

[barnard1897]

We should all try to understand that when you come from a first generation family as OP does, you don't necessarily have that, "Dad/Mom, can we sit down with milk and cookies at the kitchen island and talk about something" relationship. The roles are clear-they tell you what to do and you...do it, game over! Having a child go to college is both the ultimate dream and nightmare for these parents, who want to see the child succeed but can't handle the child's growing social independence and differing goals/desires.

While in an advisory role, I met women who did not tell their parents they were in a GLO at all and handled it all on the down-low. If you (RedRaider) go that route, you need to be aware of the risks of hurting or upsetting your parents if and when they ever find out, and balance that against your wishes to be part of a chapter and forge your own way. I think keeping it from your parents could be challenging and create more tension between you and them, but only you can decide what is worth this kind of risk. You would have to make sure no sorority mailings went to the home address, and sometimes, that's out of your control. Be ready to pay for everything on time. We saw women who could not meet their financial obligations freak out when we said that the next contact would be the parents. Full disclosure with a complete plan in place (dues covered with extra job, grades not suffering, etc) is in most cases the best route.

[Tom Earp]

People who are unaware of things such as GLOs or anything else for that matter are always afraid of them.

PS, you just do not plan or think you can get into a Sorority through AIing. It is something earned and not given.

If money is a major problem then I suggest you do not even think about it as there is time and money involved.

What ever happens, the very best of luck for you.

[BabyPiNK_FL]

I didn't tell my parents until after initiation and they've never paid my dues, (even now and before during times when I'm not working have they paid my dues) so it can be done, but you better be sure that it's a realistic option for you!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by epchick

I know that Alpha Phi has scholarships, but (at least from what i understand) our scholarships are STRICTLY for APhi members. Do any sororities have scholarships for non-members?

I'm bored & was rereading this thread. ASA has a scholarship specifically for a nonmember, who is majoring in the special education field (since Special Olympics is one of our philanthropies).