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Old 10-01-2007, 10:26 AM
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#1 honestly sounds like she's being abused, if not physically, then emotionally/mentally.
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Old 10-01-2007, 10:57 AM
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1. You have known them since 6th grade....have you all grown together since that time? It's good that you have that kind of relationship that lasts over time like this but as it's said, sometimes you have to let people go. You get to a certain point that you outgrow your friends which brings me to point number
Well, we have known each other since we were about 11, and we've had periods where we weren't as close because we all weren't living in the same region, etc. It is surprising to see my married friend acting like this because she was always, in my opinion, the most independent one in the bunch. She was the one who always stood up to her parents; She was the one who would ALWAYS kick a guy to the curb who wasn't treating her right. She was so strong before she met this loser.

I guess you can say my other friend was somewhat of a late bloomer. She was afraid to talk to boys as a teen, and didn't have a serious boyfriend until after college. This was only her second "relationship" ever, and she's 32. I know this is part of her problem. The first boyfriend she had (for 4 years) never treated her properly, so she doesn't even really grasp what it means to be in a healthy relationship.

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If she actually believes that... well, I'll refrain from being too harsh ... but she's gotten beyond the point where you can help her.

She has got to talk to someone. This is more about her than it is about her relationship with the husband.
You're right. Some of our other friends have suggested having an intervention with her (because even her siblings have noticed a negative change in her), and having a professional there to follow up with her.

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#1 honestly sounds like she's being abused, if not physically, then emotionally/mentally.
Yes, you are correct. Right now it is emotional and mental abuse, and I am afraid it might go further than that at some point.
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Old 10-01-2007, 10:58 AM
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Agreed with 33girl- I'm wondering how bad things have gotten, and if there are things she is too "ashamed" to tell you.
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