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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
Another important piece of advice:
Don't be the girl who expects everyone to come up to her and talk to them, or waits for others to ask HER to hang out! That's not effort. Take initiative to talk to girls and make plans with them! You'll get to know so many people that way.
I find that alot of girls end up depledging because they totally expected everyone to come up to them and talk to them and want to hang out with them without making an effort to get to know anyone themselves.
Life just doesn't work that way. Friendship is a 2 way street. Don't depledge without making a sincere effort.
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Good advice there.
A summer I shared an apartment with a girl attending summer school at my campus and it didn't have her chapter. During the school year, she attended a university a few hundred miles away.
She hadn't been initiated yet and was thinking of depledging. The Greek system at her school was huge. Her pledge class in numbers was about the size of an average house at the campus I attended. She thought her fellow pledges were mostly cold and the members aloof. She was very shy.
I asked her what activities in her chapter she was involved in: sports, leadership, whatever. Other than going to meetings and required events, that was the extent of her involvement, and she lived in the dorms.
She also felt no strong connection to her big sister, which to me seemed no big surprise because her big sis worked part time and was carrying a full load of classes.
I suggested going back in the fall and trying to find a niche in her chapter, to give it another other go. And also to find a good time to get together with her big sister, like late coffee or an early morning run.
We talked to each other in the fall, and things had calmed down. She'd become active in her chapter's chorus (a chorus, yet), and it performed at seniors homes and at events.
I had just been a sounding board for her, she was the one who made the effort to change things.
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