Any ASU Greek Girls Out There? Need Advice Please

[ASUADPi]

OMG what is up with people on GC lately. Seriously, maybe it's because I'm super stressed at work and way more emotional (and taking things "personally"), but WTF?

Seriously, all this mom did was come on and ask questions and the next thing she knows is she's totally getting "dissed" and "yelled at" by other members of GC. Does Barbara need to come to this thread and remind everyone of the TOS?

What is with people on GC? People have gotten so incredibly mean this recruitment season, it's downright sad.

Go ahead and flame me, yell at me, I'm used to it having been on GC so long, but why are we (GC members) attacking new GC members.

AZMOM- I pm'd you

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

OMG what is up with people on GC lately. Seriously, maybe it's because I'm super stressed at work and way more emotional (and taking things "personally"), but WTF?

Seriously, all this mom did was come on and ask questions and the next thing she knows is she's totally getting "dissed" and "yelled at" by other members of GC. Does Barbara need to come to this thread and remind everyone of the TOS?

What is with people on GC? People have gotten so incredibly mean this recruitment season, it's downright sad.

Go ahead and flame me, yell at me, I'm used to it having been on GC so long, but why are we (GC members) attacking new GC members.

AZMOM- I pm'd you

You obviously didn't read her posts attacking Dani in the Fraternity Recruitment forum. Barbara even had to clean up one of AZMom's posts.

With the exception of one or two posts, there's nothing wrong with telling the OP that questions of this nature don't get the best responses here. I've been watching this thread from the beginning and I have to admit, GCers usually known for being snarky have been playing nice and Barbara hasn't had to come in here yet.

Try and get the whole picture before you decide to come in here screaming bloody murder! And don't take your personal and emotional issues out on us. You don't want to be like some other people here. You're better than that.

[AZMOM]

OTW, I truly don't even know how to respond to your inaccurate information other than you're totally off base. You didn't read Dani's hateful, uncalled for comment to me or the fact that he set me up from the beginning with his answer. Go back and read it again. Please try to get your facts straight. So far, I have had no problems posting and don't even know who Barbara is. Speaking of which, where did you get that info. she had to clean-up one of my messages. Is she a moderator giving out that info. to this forum? If so, is that allowed?

[cutie_cat_4ever]

AZMom,

Why don't you let your daughter decide how she wants to proceed with Greek Life? Going to college is a good start to learn how to deal with real life, and it's impossible for you to hold her hands throughout the way. Let her go to recruitment and see for herself. Tell her to keep an open minded and whatever she ends up being with, it's meant to be. Only SHE would know what's good for her or not, not you. So let her make the steps and choices. You have to let her go someone you know?

And not to mention, I've seen students with controlling (not meaning to say controlling) parents end up having a hard time to get situated with college and end up rebellion, because every little thing has to be consulted with the parents and they have to obey.

I was lucky enough to have parents who let me decide, and guess what? I earned my own tuition (plus loans) and learned so much more then I could ever imagine.

I guess my whole point is, let her do the work. You probably going to inhibit her learning experience...

[AZMOM]

P.S. Cutie, she's very independent and she'd be the first to tell you she'll listen to what others have to say but she's calling the shots. It's her life and they'll be her decisions. That's my girl! She asked me do some research for her and I agreed. I think she can take it from her.

[cutie_cat_4ever]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

P.S. Cutie, she's very independent and she'd be the first to tell you she'll listen to what others have to say but she's calling the shots. It's her life and they'll be her decisions. That's my girl! She asked me do some research for her and I agreed. I think she can take it from her.

Well, as long as she asked you, then I understand that. It's one thing for a parent to take the initiative to do research and another thing for her to do it herself. But if I were her, I would rather do it myself, because you're talking about a life long commitment and it's best for the person themselves to learn about the process and keep an open mind.

Yes, being a parent does make you worry what goes on campus. But you should encourage her to do the research herself and not rely on you anymore.

[AZMOM]

Oh believe me, she'll be doing the lions share after this forum...lol She's going to school and working so I help only when "absolutely necessary." My 4 kids are "very independent." We(their dad & I) wouldn't have it any other way. Pretty proud of them. Great kids....oops adults.
Thanks......

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by OTW

You obviously didn't read her posts attacking Dani in the Fraternity Recruitment forum. Barbara even had to clean up one of AZMom's posts.

With the exception of one or two posts, there's nothing wrong with telling the OP that questions of this nature don't get the best responses here. I've been watching this thread from the beginning and I have to admit, GCers usually known for being snarky have been playing nice and Barbara hasn't had to come in here yet.

Try and get the whole picture before you decide to come in here screaming bloody murder! And don't take your personal and emotional issues out on us. You don't want to be like some other people here. You're better than that.

This is the first post/thread (whatever) I've read from AZMom. So I don't have a clue (honestly) what you are talking about in the other thread. My reference to Barbara was based on what happened in LMV recruitment thread and how haywire that went.

I know on GC we (I think most people on GC) really do like to pride ourselves on being tolerant, but IMPO, we (GC, no individuals named here) haven't been too tolerant this recruitment season. Heck, I'll admit that last year I wasn't very tolerant of all the whining that went on from PNM's and others but I kept it to myself instead of starting a tiff online.

I don't know if people are fed up or what, but we are starting to take our, I don't know "issues" (for lack of a better word) out on each other and the OP's.

And OTW, going off what you said, I think we are all better than that. We just get caught in it.

Does any of this make sense?


OP= original poster? (blonde moment).

[_Lisa_]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Where does it say anything about girls living in the sororities? It doesn't and never did. I don't give a rats ass about what the girls are like living in these sororities I want to know about the chapters. What are the fees? What are the GPA requirements? Volunteer requirements? ETC. ETC. ETC.

As per your original post, highlighted in bold so you won't miss it:

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Hi Ladies,
My dtgr. will be attending ASU next fall and is thinking about joining a Sorority. She's excited about the possibility and is already starting to do her homework by talking to family members who were Pi Phi and Theta members at Oklahoma University. I found this forum and thought I'd do my best to help her out by researching the different sororities at Arizona State. Could anyone be so kind as to give their own personal take on the Sororities @ ASU. I understand we all have different opinions and in the end my dtgr. will have to make her own decision if asked to join. It would be a great help to hear what others have to say who have already been there or are there now and what their experiences were/are like now. We're told each house is different. So please, if you don't mind, what's your own personal take good and bad(yes, there's always the good w/the bad)with each Sorority?
Thank-you for your time. Glad I found this forum and will direct my dtgr. to it a.s.a.p. to learn as much about Greek living as possible.
Sincerely,
AZ MOM

So let me get this straight, you wanted our own personal takes on the good or bad volunteer opportunities? The good and bad fees? The good and bad GPA requirements? Um...yeah. I'm not buying the bullshit you're trying to sell us. You had every intention to come here and hear generalizations about the chapters (which you have a hard time understanding, logic tells us that chapters are made up by the women who are in the chapter)-which chapters are "good" and which chapters are "bad." You can try to backtrack now, and any sucker that believes you & wants to befriend you over it is fine by me, but don't be mad that we were sincere, honest, & polite with you when we told you that your question was impolite & tactless. If you don't want to hear the truth then don't post HERE!

Originally Posted by OTW

I've been watching this thread from the beginning and I have to admit, GCers usually known for being snarky have been playing nice and Barbara hasn't had to come in here yet.

Sometimes it doesn't matter how nicely you say something, compared to how some people get treated on this board we rolled out the red carpet for this helicopter mom.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by _Lisa_

Sometimes it doesn't matter how nicely you say something, compared to how some people get treated on this board we rolled out the red carpet for this helicopter mom.

No kidding. I've been trying to play nicer, seriously.

Had I know what a bitch this woman was going to be, I wouldn't have bothered with the niceties.

ETA: I think the reason (for future newbies' reference) why she "got the red carpet rolled out" is because, even though her question was inappropriate, she was still polite (at first) about it, and took the time to form spesfic questions. Unlike the huge amount of post-and-runs we get on here that start a thread saying "Tell me the reputations of the chapters at State U". I really believe that people get out of their answer what they put into their question. You make and effort, we make an effort. However, there are still certain questions, such as this one and NPHC membership questions, that never have and never will be answered here on GC, no matter how nicely the question is wrapped up.

[AZMOM]

Thank-you ASU....Finally someone who the question was intended for an ASU student. Your answer was great and your support even better. My original ? has been misread and no matter how many times I correct it they just aren't getting it. Ladies, go back and read the original post. Where does it say anything about girls living in the sororities? It doesn't and never did. I don't give a rats ass about what the girls are like living in these sororities I want to know about the chapters. What are the fees? What are the GPA requirements? Volunteer requirements? ETC. ETC. ETC. Man, some of you ladies, not all have got to get a life. You are scaring me. lol Is this how my daughter will turn out? Wow...scary. Again, some have been incredible. Thank-you. If she turns out like you, that's awesome.
Ladies, your making a mountain out of a moe hill. Go back, Go back Go back. Read the original post.......nothing is mentioned about the girls living there. GEEZ!!!

[cutie_cat_4ever]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Thank-you ASU....Finally someone who the question was intended for an ASU student. Your answer was great and your support even better. My original ? has been misread and no matter how many times I correct it they just aren't getting it. Ladies, go back and read the original post. Where does it say anything about girls living in the sororities? It doesn't and never did. I don't give a rats ass about what the girls are like living in these sororities I want to know about the chapters. What are the fees? What are the GPA requirements? Volunteer requirements? ETC. ETC. ETC. Man, some of you ladies, not all have got to get a life. You are scaring me. lol Is this how my daughter will turn out? Wow...scary. Again, some have been incredible. Thank-you. If she turns out like you, that's awesome.
Ladies, your making a mountain out of a moe hill. Go back, Go back Go back. Read the original post.......nothing is mentioned about the girls living there. GEEZ!!!

Nope, but I fear your daughter will turn out to be like you ..

Opps.. I'm j/k

[AZMOM]

Hey Cutie, we are really close and I'm lucky to have her in my life. She's an incredible person. I'll take whatever credit I can get. I just wish I had her waistline and good looks. Gets that from her dad. If you knew me, I think you'd really like me away from this forum. Man, I don't know how people stay on this thing everyday. I'd be grumpy too.. opps... j/k

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by AZMOM

So please, if you don't mind, what's your own personal take good and bad(yes, there's always the good w/the bad)with each Sorority?

Best of luck to your daughter. I would not have inferred you were inquiring about GPA requirements, philanthropy, dues and socials from the question "What's your own personal take ... with each sorority?" I think any reasonable person would infer you were asking ASU students and alumni about their personal experiences with the sororities. And personal experiences with the sororities would likely be inferred as personal interactions with members, as the average person really isn't paying attention to other sororities' dues and GPA and volunteer requirements.

So from that, I don't see how the original question you posted was misread. Most of the posters who responded gave an answer that any reasonable person would give, whether they are an ASU student, a student at OU, Duke, an alum or a parent of a member. I regret that you feel you have been treated poorly, but the recommendation that we "need to get a life" is a bit out of line. I do take offense to that and so would many others.

Originally Posted by AZMOM

My original ? has been misread and no matter how many times I correct it they just aren't getting it. Ladies, go back and read the original post. Where does it say anything about girls living in the sororities? It doesn't and never did. I don't give a rats ass about what the girls are like living in these sororities I want to know about the chapters. What are the fees? What are the GPA requirements? Volunteer requirements? ETC. ETC. ETC. ... Ladies, your making a mountain out of a moe hill. Go back, Go back Go back. Read the original post.......nothing is mentioned about the girls living there. GEEZ!!!

Your daughter will learn all of these things at recruitment, in addition to getting a feel for each chapter. For now, she may call ASU's Office of Greek Life/Panhellenic Council to get some basic information over the phone regarding dues and GPA requirements. Most of the sororities have national and chapter web sites. She can get a better feel for the individual events and such. She will learn all about these, as well as volunteer requirements, during recruitment.

Originally Posted by AZMOM

Man, some of you ladies, not all have got to get a life. You are scaring me.

This is really insulting. If you are seeking to become a member of this online community, please curb the generalized attacks. People will be more inclined to want to assist you. That being said, welcome to Greek Chat. Please check out the below linked thread in my sig for a "Recruitment 101" post of anything and everything your daughter might like to know about recruitment in general. Any questions she has specific to ASU are best asked by an official representative of ASU sorority recruitment-- the Panhellenic Council at the university. Anything told to you by a member of Greek Chat is not bona fide information. This being the internet, you never truly know if you are actually talking to someone who is as credible as they claim. Be very careful of this, and make sure to verify information with an official source. Nothing on a message board is gospel!

All the best to you and your daughter as she begins college. ASU is a wonderful school with a great Greek System.

[AlexMack]

I've got this Buck Cherry song stuck in my head..."crazy bitch..."