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Going to games: great; they are kind of designed for spectators. Same with recitals. It's good to send the message that you care about their success in their hobbies, but they shouldn't be playing mainly for that.
But staying and watching practice is a whole different category and even it you don't have any place to go, you should leave or at least clearly communicate that you aren't watching by reading a book, walking to the other side of the park, whatever.
Kids should have times when they work with other adults and their peers without mom and dad around so they have some practice for other situations later in life, as well as just being able to enjoy playing.
The adults who work with the kids should have the chance to work with them sometimes as just the team without an audience. (Not that they should ever say or do anything they wouldn't want mom and dad to hear or know about, just that it's a pretty unnatural dynamic to be forming authentic leadership relationships when you do it in front of an audience all the time.)
I don't mean leave your kid open to predators, but when you kid is at high school sports or band practice with the rest of the team, you don't need to stay there. Or when your youth league runs background checks and you've known the coach for ten years, you can probably leave your kid with them for a public practice with the rest of the team.
If a kid grows up with very little experience doing anything without his or her parents there, you're kind of warping him or her. And while, yes, they are bound to have some experiences without their parents, it's particularly the situations working with other adult supervisors that will end up being important in employment later.
And one other factor to consider is again, how the small number of nuts can ruin something. If there are 20 kids on the team, and 19 normal moms or dads watch practice and hang out, what are you going to do about the one truly helicopter parents who is using that time to do weird or destructive crap, like keep practice stats and argue for playing time or spread malicious gossip. It really does happen, and I think it'd be less likely to happen if everyone didn't treat practice like a spectator event.
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