Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[giggle528]

im only writing what the transfer lady from my org said in her e-mail. THATS exactly what she said "there are a lot of transfers every year, and to my knowledge, no one has ever been denied even if they were at total we worked through it to get them affliated" thats exactly what she said. I would show u the e-mail, but it was sent through my old school e-mail and that is no longer active.

here i joined a sorority because i loved the girls that were in it at my old school. greek life wasnt THAT big, but you defiently knew who was in it and who wasnt. my school was only 4,000 students. i wanted to join, because i've always been part of a group. I was in girl scouts for 9 years and I was on my high school colorguard team for 4 years. In each group everyone was very close with one another. I love having friends with the same common interest and because I never played sports in HS (I figure skated) i knew that i couldnt start one in college..duh..haha! so I thought a sorority was the next best thing, because we are all reaching towards a common goal;sisterhood. The girls in my pledge class were pretty close, or atleast the girls that were in my dorm that were part of my pledge class were. there were 9 girls not including me in my pledge class, but the reason why i feel that there was a lack of unity in my sorority was because we only did things together when we HAD to, other than that it would be "hey" if we walked by one of our sisters and that was it. Also during greek week, there were tonz of events, non of my sisters went, because either they were "too busy" or just plain didnt want to go. I wanted to go, but i was too insecure to go by myself and be the only ABC there. personally that doesnt seem like a sisterhood to me. During initation, half the time the girls were wispering to one another, slouching in their seat or not even paying attention. To me, that was rude.

the reason i decided to transfer wasnt because I didnt like my sorority. The school was too small and they didnt have the major I wanted. I looked for a school that had my sorority, because I wanted to stay in it. Here, greek life isnt that big either. I mean there are 18,000 undergrads, so naturally tthere are more people that are greek, but its not a huge school where everyone goes greek.

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Good luck at your new school and keep us posted on the transfer. Be prepared if you do have the option to transfer into the new chapter. It can be a big adjustment, as the culture of this chapter may be very different than the one you joined. You'll have to make a lot of the effort to get to know the sisters, too.

Greek Chat Ladies, I don't want to delve too much into areas which are not my business, but I was under the impression that all NPC chapters have to receive a "release" or approval to initiate members before they may proceed with doing so, and then follow-up with post-initiation paperwork almost immediately following the initiation. Is this the case with most of your groups? As I said before, it only makes sense as being a chapter of a larger umbrella organization-- if you did not need some form of approval or authorization to initiate your members or some pre and post-follow-up, members could argue that they were free to initiate anyone, with or without an actual chartered chapter. Thus, if a chapter initiates a member or an entire class without some kind of formal communication to their HQ (initiation release form/post-initiation follow-up paperwork), the neophytes have not truly been initiated b/c the HQ does not recognize them as members.

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Originally Posted by giggle528

im only writing what the transfer lady from my org said in her e-mail. THATS exactly what she said "there are a lot of transfers every year, and to my knowledge, no one has ever been denied even if they were at total we worked through it to get them affliated" thats exactly what she said. I would show u the e-mail, but it was sent through my old school e-mail and that is no longer active.

I'm not trying to argue with you, I don't doubt that that's what HQ lady said in the email but I find it unlikely anyone would tell you about the circumstances in which a member was denied affiliation. It DOES happen -- and not as infrequently as you'd think -- and it's probably due to standards/financial issues. So no matter what you got in an email, it's best to not view it as an "in the bag" situation.

You've already gotten lots of fantastic advice, so the moral of this thread is that if you love your sorority and want the best shot at reaffiliating, you have GOT to be patient. That doesn't mean ignoring HQ.... by all means call them up periodically (NICELY) to check the status of your initiation but for heaven's sake, no more having mom call HQs! Just take a deep breath and try not to let this get you bent out of shape. I know you're eager to try reaffiliating, but I'm sure many of us who have dealt with "nationals" can attest to the fact that it sometimes can be very slow going. Getting mad just raises your blood pressure but it rarely helps these things go any faster.

In the mean time, try to get to know the chapter and maybe if they're on board they can pull some strings for you, or at least get the paperwork together so as soon as your initiation goes through the system, you can affiliate ASAP.

[giggle528]

yeah, im fine now...ive figured everything out.