Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by giggle528

THANKK YOUU!!! someone understandds! according to HQ like a week ago, i was in their database as "on hold" meaning that to them i have not been initiated. i was not an ABC according to HQ. thats what i was saying before, that i was going to cancel all my checks and have my chapter throw away my stuff, because at that point my mom wanted me out of it anyways. but i finally just called HQ fusterated that my prez wasnt doing her job, so they did the paperwork for me, and sent it over to my new campus. it is here now..as of yesterday(and i asked my prez to do this...ohh i dunno...beginning of Julyy)so now i am just waiting for them to e-mail me back inviting me to meet them.

So why start this thread??

Also,
CAN YOU PLEASE TAKE MORE TIME WITH YOUR POSTS, THEY ARE HARD TO READ. THANK YOU.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Also,
CAN YOU PLEASE TAKE MORE TIME WITH YOUR POSTS, THEY ARE HARD TO READ. THANK YOU.

...if you dont like them..then dont read them

[LegallyBrunette]

Originally Posted by giggle528

...if you dont like them..then dont read them

You have recieved some excellent advice as to how to proceed and I wish you the best. That being said, AlphaFrog's comment is also good advice. Poor proofreading, whether in a paper for school, communication with your org, or simply on a message board, takes away from what you're trying to say and is quite distracting.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by giggle528

THANKK YOUU!!! someone understandds! according to HQ like a week ago, i was in their database as "on hold" meaning that to them i have not been initiated. i was not an ABC according to HQ. thats what i was saying before, that i was going to cancel all my checks and have my chapter throw away my stuff, because at that point my mom wanted me out of it anyways. but i finally just called HQ fusterated that my prez wasnt doing her job, so they did the paperwork for me, and sent it over to my new campus. it is here now..as of yesterday(and i asked my prez to do this...ohh i dunno...beginning of Julyy)so now i am just waiting for them to e-mail me back inviting me to meet them.

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

So why start this thread??

Also,
CAN YOU PLEASE TAKE MORE TIME WITH YOUR POSTS, THEY ARE HARD TO READ. THANK YOU.

Originally Posted by giggle528

...if you dont like them..then dont read them

i know im SO swervin in yall lane, but seriously, you said yourself that HQ didnt have you down as being an XYZ. i dunno, do HQs usually just "do paperwork" for PNMs like that at the busiest time of (NPC) sorority year?

and kudos on your mom wanting you out of the sorority. and bigger kudos on wanting to throw all your para away. i bet you make a great sister.

i jus feel like there's more to the story - why WOULDNT a chapter send papers to HQ if they initiated you?

(and for my own knowledge, i recall from some retro thread, that when you transfer from State U to U State College as an XYZ, that it is very possible you may not become affiliated because of quotas, chapter fit and what not?)

[LegallyBrunette]

Originally Posted by tld221

i jus feel like there's more to the story - why WOULDNT a chapter send papers to HQ if they initiated you?

It sounds like her original chapter might not be on top of paperwork. Even in chapters that are, it can take a while (at least from my experience) for everything to process. For example, I was initiated in December, but didn't recieve my badge & certificate until the middle of the following semester.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by tld221

i jus feel like there's more to the story - why WOULDNT a chapter send papers to HQ if they initiated you?

I can speak from personal experience. I don't know what it's like for the giggles' sorority, but in ASA, after you're initiated, the chapter has to send in a form to national headquarters that says your date of initiation, your chapter number, full name to appear on certificate, address, etc. It doesn't seem like a big deal at all, but you have to keep in mind that initiation is usually done at the end of the semester, right before finals and term papers are due. If your president has a test in two days that's worth 40% of her grade, sending out paperwork for the new initiates just isn't a priority at that moment. Plus, it's not always that easy to track down all of the girls and get them to fill out all of the paperwork. It took a while for us to get it done and there were only 9 other girls initiated with me. Imagine what it must be like with a new member class of 35+.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by tld221

i jus feel like there's more to the story - why WOULDNT a chapter send papers to HQ if they initiated you?

It might not be a matter of the paperwork not being sent, it might be a matter of processing. I initiated in the Fall quarter, and it wasn't until the Spring Quarter that I got my badge, my membership info/card, and my certificate. (We were told it takes about 2 quarters/1 semester to process all that info)

If the OP initiated in April it seems logical (at least to me) that she wouldn't have her badge or any of that other stuff.

But I dont know how other chapters handle stuff like that.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by LegallyBrunette

It sounds like her original chapter might not be on top of paperwork. Even in chapters that are, it can take a while (at least from my experience) for everything to process. For example, I was initiated in December, but didn't recieve my badge & certificate until the middle of the following semester.

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

I can speak from personal experience. I don't know what it's like for the giggles' sorority, but in ASA, after you're initiated, the chapter has to send in a form to national headquarters that says your date of initiation, your chapter number, full name to appear on certificate, address, etc. It doesn't seem like a big deal at all, but you have to keep in mind that initiation is usually done at the end of the semester, right before finals and term papers are due. If your president has a test in two days that's worth 40% of her grade, sending out paperwork for the new initiates just isn't a priority at that moment. Plus, it's not always that easy to track down all of the girls and get them to fill out all of the paperwork. It took a while for us to get it done and there were only 9 other girls initiated with me. Imagine what it must be like with a new member class of 35+.

Originally Posted by epchick

It might not be a matter of the paperwork not being sent, it might be a matter of processing. I initiated in the Fall quarter, and it wasn't until the Spring Quarter that I got my badge, my membership info/card, and my certificate. (We were told it takes about 2 quarters/1 semester to process all that info)

If the OP initiated in April it seems logical (at least to me) that she wouldn't have her badge or any of that other stuff.

But I dont know how other chapters handle stuff like that.

ok, point taken. hell, my HQ goes through the same ish. carry on.

[giggle528]

i guess it just varies from chapter to chapter on who handles the paperwork. when i called HQ for the first time when the lady told me that I hadnt been initiated according to HQ and their database, she was like "hmm nor have they sent in your badge forms, and member cards..ill have to give your prez a call" she didnt seem to happy. We filled out all our cards and things during the week of initation, and they said that we would recieve our pins at the first meeting. my sisters havent gotten them yet.
Personally, i just think that my chapter is very irresponsible, because all my sisters complain about how unorganized things are.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

So why start this thread??

I'm still waiting for an answer to this question...

If your paperwork was in the day that you started this thread then what's your problem? You're either a troll or a dramaqueen.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I'm still waiting for an answer to this question...

If your paperwork was in the day that you started this thread then what's your problem? You're either a troll or a dramaqueen.

hi alphafrog...well actually i started this thread a day or two before i got the e-mail....

[AlphaFrog]

You started the thread on 9/4/07 at 11:40pm with this post:

Originally Posted by giggle528

OK, i am extremly fusterated! I was just initiated last april into ABC sorority. Since then I have transfered to a new school that has the same sorority that I am in. I contacted my president at the beginning of the summer to let her know that I wasnt coming back and that I would want to transfer into the chapter of ABC at my new school. She said that I would have to fill out some papers and then those would be sent to HQ and then sent over to my new school's president.
I did all the paper work a month before school I left for school. I simply e-mailed my prez the forms and told her to contact me when she had sent them over to HQ. never heard a response. So then i contacted the prez at my new school telling her that i was a transfering and would want to be part of their chapter. She was like "ok...you will have to go through an "informal" rush to get to know the girls to see if you fit in, etc" but she said that she couldnt do anything and i wouldnt be allowed to meet the girls until she had gotten the papers. I e-mailed HQ and asked if they have recieved my papers. They said "no" and according to them I was not in their system as being a full "ABC sorority member" because none of the paper work or badge forms had been sent in for my pledge class. that made me even more fusterated! the lady said that she would call my prez and let her know that she still needed to send those forms in plus my transfer form. A week later, i heard nothing.

anywho..my mom called HQ complaing that nothing had been done, and she didnt know why my paper work hadnt been sent in. This was about a week ago(I am now at school) So the lady decided that she would fill the paperwork out her self, and send it over to my new school. a couple days ago, my mom called them back and asked if they had sent it, and they said "yes" I then contacted the prez here letting her know that my paperwork should finally be here, and that I didnt know what to do next. Havent heard anything back. I then e-mailed greek life at this new school, and they said that they would contact her. I havent heard ANYTHING. I called the house, no one picked up, I e-mailed the prez again, no answer.

I am now sooo fusterated, and I feel like this isnt fair to me. rush is starting this weekend, and if I am not even in the system for ABC sorority then i see no reasoning but to just go through rush again. I am now just afraid that some of the girls will remember my name, because I had added a few girls on facebook letting them know that i was from ABC and transfering into their chapter. Do you think they have forgotten about me? Do you think if I rushed again they would know who I am? I mean greek life is big at this school, and i doubt they would even know who i am out of all the girls that wanna rush right? i could block them from viewing my facebook... I mean like this is soo ridiculous(sp?) that no one has gotten back to me. Its extremely unfair and so irresponsible on my old chapters part for not even sending in my badge order form that i spent over $100 on.

I just dont know what to do...
any advice...PLEASSEE!!

On 9/5/07 at 2:36 pm (less than 24 hours later) you said:

Originally Posted by giggle528

THANKK YOUU!!! someone understandds! according to HQ like a week ago, i was in their database as "on hold" meaning that to them i have not been initiated. i was not an ABC according to HQ. thats what i was saying before, that i was going to cancel all my checks and have my chapter throw away my stuff, because at that point my mom wanted me out of it anyways. but i finally just called HQ fusterated that my prez wasnt doing her job, so they did the paperwork for me, and sent it over to my new campus. it is here now..as of yesterday(and i asked my prez to do this...ohh i dunno...beginning of Julyy)so now i am just waiting for them to e-mail me back inviting me to meet them.

So this still doesn't make any sense:

Originally Posted by giggle528

hi alphafrog...well actually i started this thread a day or two before i got the e-mail....

The paperwork would have been there the day you started the thread. You might not have know at that point that it was there, but you obviously had already contacted your HQ and they had agreed to send over the paperwork, because that stuff doesn't happen overnight. Again, since your HQ had already agreed to send the transfer paperwork WHY START THIS THREAD? Yes, it may take time for everything to get sorted out, and yes, the chapter at your new school is more worried about attending to rushing a bunch of girls than one transfer student, AS THEY SHOULD BE. If you don't like it, quit. Throw away a lifetime of sisterhood because you missed a few weeks at the begining of the semester. Good idea.

[SydneyK]

C'mon now, AF. You know the space-time continuum was compromised when the prez didn't send in the paperwork to HQ on time.

But seriously, hopefully she's learned a lesson here.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

C'mon now, AF. You know the space-time continuum was compromised when the prez didn't send in the paperwork to HQ on time.

But seriously, hopefully she's learned a lesson here.

I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm trying to follow this unfortunate girl's thread, but logic and reason (not to mention atrocious grammar) keep getting in the way of this awesome fairytale.

[giggle528]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

C'mon now, AF. You know the space-time continuum was compromised when the prez didn't send in the paperwork to HQ on time.

But seriously, hopefully she's learned a lesson here.

im really not going to comment on what AF said, but seriously this is a message board, not a place for people to make rude comments to others. If you wanna do that go someplace where someone actually cares. ..

anyways,
I am a sophmore, obviously i was just initated last April. My chapter CLEARLY doesnt know all the rules, or processes, nor did my prez let me know when I told her that this process takes time.

so yeah, i was fusterated because this fusteration has just been a build of different situations that have happened! I began to not take my chapter seriously. there was NO sisterhood there. half the time girls wouldnt show up for meetings, go to events, etc. Our school had a panhellnic(sp?) car wash to raise money. I wanted to go, because you know car washes are fun and I wanted to raise money. All the girls in the other sororities went(there were 2 other sororities). Did any of the ABC girls show up? Only I and another girl, and THATS it. hmm...sounds like great sisterhood to me.

Just little things like that really bothered me, but I didnt switch schools because of the sorority. I switch for other reasons that I wont justify on here.

Yeah, but now with going on this and asking for advice, I got my questions answered, and for future reference I now know that process takes time