Pan-Hellenic Council Regrets To Inform You...

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by honeychile

"You have BO and bad breath?"

That would be more SPECIFIC.

More GENERAL would be "You smell".

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

That would be more SPECIFIC.

More GENERAL would be "You smell".

Which is infinitely better than "We hate your guts."

[RedRover]

In this part of the country, fraternities schedule invitation-only dinners(usually, suit and tie) for those rushees who are under consideration for membership.

I would think that if a young man didn't receive an invitation to the dinner, he would figure out that no bid would be forthcoming

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

That would be more SPECIFIC.

More GENERAL would be "You smell".

Originally Posted by honeychile

Which is infinitely better than "We hate your guts."

We tend to say, "Instead of pursuing membership at this time, might we suggest that you please invest more time in hygienic matters."

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by TrevorG

At my school for IFC the duty falls to the guy sitting at the IFC desk on bid day. All the fraternities turn in their bid cards to IFC and the next day rushees go to the table to pick them up. If someone didn't get a bid at all the IFC guy just says "sorry" and invariably recommends that they "spend more time hanging out with the brothers".

Its sort of a crappy way to do it, I imagine it feels pretty horrible to go pick up your bids and find that there aren't any waiting for you.

yeah, that's how we did it too.

I always felt bad for the guys who didn't get bids, but I feel bad for the guys sitting there, because they're not allowed to say anything other than "try again, hang out more" when really they should be like "dude, you aren't anything like those guys, next time rush ABC instead" which would be helpful for all concerned.

[REE1993]

(at my first school) I COB'd and on Bid night, we waited for THE KNOCK. There were 3 of us in our 10-person suite who rushed. Two of us got THE KNOCK, and one of us didn't. I was the first, my neighbor was the second (she heard me scream), and we waited for the third for the girl two doors down. I felt so bad.

I beleive that those who were not chosen received a phone call after all of the bidees were notified and escorted from our rooms.

[Tom Earp]

Is there ever a good way to say sorry?

Someones heart and or ego will be broken.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

We tend to say, "Instead of pursuing membership at this time, might we suggest that you please invest more time in hygienic matters."

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

We tend to say, "Instead of pursuing membership at this time, might we suggest that you please invest more time in hygienic matters."

Ok this almost makes me want to rush Delta just so that I can get a letter like that.

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

Is there ever a good way to say sorry?

Someones heart and or ego will be broken.

Very good point.


5 months on greekchat and I've finally figured out that you can quote several posters at once.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

Ok this almost makes me want to rush Delta just so that I can get a letter like that.

I think yours would say something like "Instead of pursuing membership in Delta, how about you focus on the GLO you're already a member of...traitor"

[amanda6035]

Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

I think the phone calls are fine and better than making someone come in and get the news, but we don't need think of PNMs as such fragile flowers.

We had one girl who went through recruitment this year that did not get a bid to either sorority. It was the first time in 4 years that it's happened. The greek life advisor called the PNM, rather than making either of the 2 disaffiliated panhellenic officers look like "the bad guy."

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Really? Until the interview all you have seen is what is on paper.

Not true with Sigma. We still have interest groups and we encourage interests (in undergrad and grad) to attend events, volunteer, and get to know our members before intake. I know of many cases where invites to formal rush and interviews were not extended because the sorors didn't know the interests well enough. And I also know of situations where people didn't make it passed the interviews because the interview was the deciding factor if sorors weren't sure about whether or not they would extend an invitation to participate in intake.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Not true with Sigma. We still have interest groups and we encourage interests (in undergrad and grad) to attend events, volunteer, and get to know our members before intake.

Yeah this makes a big difference. Our prospects are encouraged to attend our public events and of course they attend our parties - LOL. But we can't do anything that may appear to be a pre-intake activity (if you know what I mean.)

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Yeah this makes a big difference. Our prospects are encouraged to attend our public events and of course they attend our parties - LOL. But we can't do anything that may appear to be a pre-intake activity (if you know what I mean.)

I do understand the thinking behind this but realistically, those chapters that are going to break the rules, will do so before and during intake.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I do understand the thinking behind this but realistically, those chapters that are going to break the rules, will do so before and during intake.

True, but our legal liability is lessened by having the rules we do.